I been in my relationship for over a year but the ex-girlfriend's family is very close to my boyfriend therefore there is no way in hell he can stop talking to her so I feel I will be more confortable and would feel less jealousy if I had contact with her but I don't know how to do it
2006-10-20 11:57:18 · 26 answers · asked by sweet lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm in a simmular situation..my husbands ex-girlfriend just got out of a 2 year relationships (husband and her have been broken up for over 5 years now) all of a sudden she called his brother to get my husbands number and they have been talking and he wasnts us to be friends but i have been trying to get to know her but she doesnt seem to be interested in getting to know each other...but I tryed at first e-mailing her and telling some interests of yours
2006-10-20 12:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you it really isn't that hard to connect with her...if she is open to it. It sounds like if your boyfriend is still close to the family then she (the ex) must be at least semi-cool.
Last summer I was kind of in the same situation. The guy I was dating was still friends with his ex. So when me and her were around each other I always made it a point to talk to her and get to know her. In the end we ended up pretty good friends and would hang out with him and stuff. He kinda got nervous about that but it was all good.
A cool thing about becoming friends with his ex is that she may be able to give you insight into your beau's past or why he does certain things.
Just take the time to get to know her when she's around and it will all fall into place -- and believe it or not it will not seem weird.
Good luck:)
2006-10-20 19:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by krissyb1980 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I read your subject line I was going to say, "You can't" but this would depend on how close they are. If the families are close enough that they dinner together occasionally they can always join on of these dinners and try to speak to her. You can be proactive if you really want to "be friends", and ask your boyfriend to set up a "date" between you two so you can talk. I'm thinking that you want to keep tabs on her so you wont feel jealous towards her. If this is the case speak to your boyfriend first and than the three of you can have a sit down to speak to each other about your feelings.
2006-10-20 19:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friendly when you run into her at these functions or when she calls, if she really has the nerve to call, otherwise don't bother. It will only look as though you are insecure. It will look as though you are the runner up, second choice, and that is pathetic. You are the girlfriend now, she isn't. She is just a family friend who will move on when she finds a new family, or a boyfriend who doesn't like the idea of her hanging out with her ex's fam.
2006-10-20 19:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are they friends with your boyfriends family or just our boyfriend? Cause that makes a difference if he is just talking to them to be nice thats one thing and it doesnt mean he has to stay in contact with his ex girlfriend to remain close to her parents. As far as being friends with her you may really want to think about that. Make sure she is over your boyfriend. This girl may allow you to be her friend and may stab you in the back to get back the guy. You never know. I would be nice and be an aquitance but I think anything more would be a little troublesome. And if you want to hang out invite out her and her bf or a date to go out with you and your boyfriend.
2006-10-20 19:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Glittergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't need to be that close to his ex's family that you should worry about it. a visit by phone or something a few times a year should suffice. Sounds like he is using them as an excuse to stay in contact with the ex. I wouldn't make friends with her. She will just poison your relationship. Slowly wean him away from the ex's family and make it clear that should you two ever split you don't expect him to maintain a relationship with your family- that is absurd. Good Luck
2006-10-20 19:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u olny want 2 b friends with her bcuz u feel insecure ur boyfriend's past(by past imean his ex) has nothing to do with u now i am not saying that u shouldnt speak with her if she does with u im jus saying that by making it ur business 2 becomes this girl's friend is jus childish so what if theyre close if u suggest 2 ur boyfriend that they should stop talking cuz ur jealous... he's gonna get mad! i u show ur guy a certain level of trust then he's gonna want 2 include u in with them both
GUD LUCK!
2006-10-20 19:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tish Tish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you doing this to have a true friendship or be nice to her just because?....i tell you that one of my most worst pet peeves is someone doing something just because they want something...you will come off as being fake if you are doing this just because...if you want to be a true friend and you dont see a problem with you being friends then just talk to her...say hi same as you would be with someone you just met...Shes an ex there is nothing to be jealous about unless you think that she's after him still...if thats the case why would you want to be friends with her anyway?...Everyone has an ex...you cant help it shes had him first can you ?... Just be nice when you see her...I have an ex that i'm still close to his family....we are civil...if hes with another grl ...im nice to everyone i meet...but hey the jealousy is still there....but we need to curb it....i think its just our grlish catty ways lol..you will be ok ....just be yourself ....
2006-10-20 19:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is probably the NICEST thing I've heard anyone say on here.
Good for you!!
Just call her up and ask for her... tell her who you are. Explain to her that you think it's really great that her family is so close to your boyfriend...tell her he always has nice things to say about them, and you would like to get to know her better.
You know... you're a girl. We don't like beating around the bush. Just get to the point and do it fast. I'm sure she will not be expecting it - .... the worst she can say is "no thanks". And if she does... at least you tried.
keep us posted!!!
2006-10-20 19:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by apinkfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason why your boyfriend should be too close to his ex-girlfriend let alone her family................anyway in other to avoid trouble i want you to behave as if you did not even know anything about there relationship. try as much as possible to be free with her whenever you have contact with her .Free yoiu mind and feel free with her.
2006-10-20 19:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋