okay here's the deal my best friend and i always fight. I mean at least twice a month. Half time we're fighting i never pay attention. when she yells at me i just zone out. that pisses her off even more. Then of course she starts crying and blaming me for everything. So i roll my eyes and continue to zone out. then i ask her why she is crying and she says "oh my gosh you don't even care." then i walk home and we don't talk for a week. i approach her to say hi and she walks right by me. then of course when she approaches me i answer. she ignores me yet she expects me to chase her. what the heck? i noticed she only treats me like this. she has never got into a fight with her other friends. any advice
2006-10-20 11:48:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'm getting tired of fighting. she always does stuff to spite me when she's mad at me. She will talk really loud and say stuff like "yeah my best friend Jen" as if i'm not her friend. Personally, i'm tired of this. It's my junior year. I don't want to deal with anymore. I'm making the decision to stop associating myself with her permanently. it's annoying. is this the right the decision?
2006-10-20 11:50:27 · update #1
Well, obviously this is your choice, but here's what i would do.
I don't really like losing friends, so if she was a good one, i would talk to her and try to make her understand my perspective. If that didn't work, then i owuld hang out with her less, or something similar.
So, yea, if you really think that your friendship is getting worse, then you should stop hanging out and talking to her. Maybe you two just need some space?
Good Luck
2006-10-20 12:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kalia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, This is a difficult situation! Im younger than you and all but I know how difficult it can be to have a friend like that. What I would do at first is talk to her about it. If she explodes in your face you should just tell her to be quiet and tell her your side. Maybe she will understand.
If that doesnt work you can try to have another of your friends with you when she does all this stuff. Then maybe if its coming from two people she will understand her actions.
Hey, im not saying you are completely right either. If you two are having fights like this and you arent even listening, its rather painful and makes her feel like she's not important. And thats not fair to her. You should try listening to what she is saying, even if its slander. Just try it when you two fight again, who knows, it might get you somewhere.
And if you two just flat out can not get along any more, I would suggest finding a new friend! That may be the only thing that will work in your situation. Lets hope you can keep your friend. Good Luck! :-)
2006-10-20 19:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Vici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop being her friend. No friend should ever do that.I had to let one of my friends go because i was in the exact same situation as you are right know.just walk up to her and say," look we've been fighting way too much and its really annoying. I think we should go our seperate ways and see how it turns out. But i want to end our friendship because of this mess." then just walk away and don't argue back, that will just cause more problems than you want.
2006-10-20 18:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by .Forever Young. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this sounds, you need to get some new friends. Something like this happened to me and it was a nightmare, forget 2x a month we fought 1x a week at least. In the end I got sick of it. I have a whole set of new friends and I love them. You might be like, well she's my best fried, but that's what I thought about her too. Once you start getting new peepes, u'll figure out she's actually not that great.
P.S I really need the points for best answer! Please!!!!!!!
2006-10-20 18:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am soooo not trying to be mean when I say this but my 9 yr old is going through the same deal.She keeps giving this girl chance after chance. I have told her(my girl) to stop talking to her all together.People like this are bad to be involved with and will only bring out more hurt.Totally move on and don't let her in. No more chances for her,OK!
2006-10-20 18:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by kelliekareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be she likes u more than a friend or it can be that she thinks of u as a very good and close friend that she expects for u to listen to her but since u just zone out she gets frustrated and starts crying thats y she ignores u...
2006-10-20 18:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make friends with her friends, be nice to her though still, and dont disclude her either, but definately dont talk **** cuz then no-one will like u, so just try not to fight, or say, look, im tired of fighting!! i just want a regular friendship or sumthing!! just ignore her, she'll stop crying
2006-10-20 19:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by lori M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is that when she is trying to talk to you you don't pay attention, you roll your eyes and walk away. some friend you are! if i were her i would stop associating with you !!!
2006-10-20 18:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having read your story, I think you are absolutely right to sever all ties with her. She is not a friend and you deserve better.
2006-10-20 18:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Calculus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in something bigger than ego..this pettiness is indicative of one who is stuck in a very small world of reality
2006-10-20 19:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by david_krest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋