every job i have worked no mater how hard i try i have to leave because people can't just let me work, they have to try and make friends. i'm polite and listen to them if they want to talk to me but i don't tell them about me, i'm a very privet person, and if they bug me to tell them about my self i usualy tell them that i don't do any thing but work and go home. they just won't leave me to do my job. those people i do socalise with don't do this, we have fun in each others company then go on with life. what is wrong with people can't thay just let me do my job and have a life away from work?
2006-10-20 11:47:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I am the same way, & I know EXACTLY what you mean. The problem might be- is that many people don't have lives outside of the workplace- so that's all the socializing they ever get. But, that's THEIR problem- not yours. All you can do about it, -is what you're doing; be polite, listen when you feel you have to, and firmly go about your business as though it was what you're there for. (and when you get so fed up with the interruptions that you want to scream, "Leave me ALONE!"- remember this: you could've been THEM !)
2006-10-20 12:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
By socializing and talking to your co-workers it makes it that much more tollerable to be at work. Think how awful it would be if everyone at work just didn't communicate with each other and just kept to themselves it would be painfully boreing (at least i think so) however if you do want people to not talk to you at work just be honest with the tell the" I don't mean to be rude and i'm sure your a great person, but i make it a habbit not to socialize with people i work with." and then if the person understands where your coming from than this might even be a person you wouldn't mind being friends with outside of the work place. If they don't understand than it's not the type of person you would want to associate with any way.
2006-10-20 12:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dustan B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong! Most of the time you are better off not socializing with co workers. Everybody always wants to be your best friend or stab you in the back. unless you really feel a connection with someone, you do not have to devulge you life story. tell them you are jjust a very private person. I know it makes it hard. Maybe look for a job where your behind the scenes working more by your self!
2006-10-20 11:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by fatbrat64 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because it's not being a "team player" blah blah blah...people always want you to small talk and bullsh*t them even when they know it's just bullsh*t. It's called being "diplomatic". I hate doing it too for the most part. I always get caught up in office politics when I make friends at work. Damned if you do damned if you don't kinda situation unfortunately.
2006-10-20 11:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Xander's Mom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The question is, is what is wrong with you? are you afraid of people just trying to make friends with you? General conversation, people being nice and dignified. Just try and relax a little and enjoy everyone and life as well. Sorry that sounded a little gritty but it is the truth.
2006-10-20 11:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by jet6581 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe you have to leave because you are so hyper-sensitive. Is this really the biggest problem you have ?
Consider yourself lucky, and definitely do NOT whine about this anywhere else. They will figure you for shallow & feeble. I mean, all the real problems on this planet & you're whining about this ?
2006-10-20 12:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by kate 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
All it takes is one enemy in the workplace to spread rumors behind your back and get you fired. For some reason you seem to be a target for certain types of people. I'm the same way. That's why I'm self-employed.
2006-10-20 11:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Folks take life differently as you. I admit I would try to make friends at first if I was in your position. Just to make clear that I don't bite.
2006-10-20 11:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is typical of American office workers. They are being friendly and want to include you, which is a nice gesture.
2006-10-20 12:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋