I ended our relationship a couple of weeks now, and i thought he got the picture, but i just spoke to him and he said that he was just letting me go through a phase and that he does not want to hear that we are through, he said that he never ended the relationship and that he knows nothing about that, he kept on saying he does not want to hear that we are through. The thing is i have a bf already, (it was kind of soon, maybe too soon) but he is really sweet, he shows me affection that i have never felt, and i am not giving him up for anything, The relationship with my ex was never abusive, he had some issues with his ex among other things with his lifestyle, and neither of which has change, the thing that really scares me is the fact that i thought he had got the picture and i'm affraid of what might happen if he sees me with my current boyfriend. Please give me advice on the matter, he was my first relationship and sexual partner.. My ex does not know about my current boyfriend.
2006-10-20 11:32:45 · 15 answers · asked by ducky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
IF you are totally over your ex, you told him right ?...he should take it seriously..sounds like hes in denial about you leaving him...sometimes when you are in love you are blind and when you break up they can not see it right away...if you are totally over him you shouldnt be afraid to move on and be with your new bf..yes its a little soon...to tell you the truth you know that when he sees you with your new bf it might anger him but if you are really ready to move on.. its your ex's problem for not accepting that you moved on....you need to tell him once again that you are not interested in him anymore...which may be hard to understand at first....no one likes to be rejected for another person honey....but he should understand and if he doesnt thats on him. All you can do is tell him its over....people grieve over broken relationships in their different way..now if hes get stalkerish then you can alert the authorities....
2006-10-20 11:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man alive! You don't waste any time, do you? You practically didn't even wait for the door to close on your ex-boyfriend and presto, right out of the hat, a new boy friend. Or maybe the hat trick happened before the door closed. Well, you have a problem. Your ex doesn't accept that you two are no longer an item. If he didn't get the picture, as you say, then the new boyfriend should be a real eye opener.
Word to the wise: End something completely before you start something new. Make that a cardinal rule. You can see why that is important, don't you?
2006-10-20 12:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get a restraining order, that may only make it worse, he may actually start stalking you. Right now he is just being a little kid about it, the next time he calls tell him it is over. There is no discussion we are through. I don't like all the drama with your ex and I don't like your lifestyle. What we had was fun, but it can't last forever. It is over. If you feel you need to tell him you have another bf. Being sexual partners (and young, I assume), makes breaking up even harder than it is. Just try. He has to move on as well. If he ever physically assaults you or tries to or threatens you then look into a restraining order. Avoid him. Don't answer calls or messages. Move on just like you are wanting to, and hopefully he will get the picture.
2006-10-20 11:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had to deal with this myself . first off change your locks on your house and make sure your windows are locked or can be locked. Do you have a big dog ? If not get one . Nobody knows if the dog bites or not wont take chance. Also get a restraining order. Make sure you never go anywhere the ex would go . Change everything you do including different grocery store,different hangouts,different everything period.Never drive around without your car doors locked. Know your surroundings. Stay away from his friends too. Less you see of them the better as well. Trade your car in or have it painted. That way he does not recognize car if he happens to drive by a parking lot. Just giving you examples that the police gave me when I got attacked by my ex- husband these were all the things they told me to do after ward. Hope this helps . god bless you and good luck.
2006-10-20 11:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he doesn't want to "hear" that you two are through. So you know what? Ignore him. Don't call him. Don't answer his calls. Block his IM names, etc. He'll soon get the picture.
If THAT doesn't work, (and he's not an abusive stalker), then just tell him you're seeing someone else.
You say he's not abusive, yet you're afraid of what he might do if he sees you with the new guy.
Get a restraining order if you feel that he will hurt you.
2006-10-20 11:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're in a sticky situation........First and foremost tell your current boyfriend about your ex and his denial about the breakup. This is very important for him to know so he'll know what's going on. If you want this relationship with your new boyfriend to be honest and trust worthy this is a must to share, not hide. Try talking to the ex once again and tell him it's over between the to of you....If he still doesn't see it that way and you are truly afraid I think you should look into a protection order.
2006-10-20 11:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although u meantioned ur ex was never abusive, u make it sound he could be. Maybe u better keep ur distance between ur new guy and him, so that he get the real picture. If he ever catches u with ur new guy, tell him firmly that it has nothing to do with him. U may be scared, but u have to beef up a bit too. Dont let ur guard down, be strong and I know u can do it. Girl power!
2006-10-20 11:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by IcyBlue2412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it ought to have been your hymen breaking, if it grew to become into your first time having intercourse or it grew to become into painful. I rather doubt which you're pregnant via fact he did no longer come, yet once you're extremely frightened then you definitely wait a month and purchase a being pregnant attempt
2016-11-24 20:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by alire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out with another guy than he will get the picture and if he still didn't get the picture than tell him to leave u a lone
2006-10-20 11:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by keyovasmith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is just talking sh*t. The next time he says something like that, you need to laugh in his face and say "you're pathetic". Don't let him see that he's intimidating you. And after that, cut him out of your life altogether, I mean it, don't take his phone calls, don't even look at him when you pass him in the halls
2006-10-20 11:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋