what do you think of affairs?

Answer 1

I'm gonna be two faced here. I think two ppl in a committed relationship should never cheat. It rips hearts out. But then again, I was in a bad marriage to a violent ugly brute. I used to pray that one day before I died, I would get to have decent sex. I ended up having an affair with a long time friend. This lover became my partner 10 years ago and we are blissfully happy and would never dream of cheating. So, in closing I would say affairs are bad and horrible and dont do it. But, if your partner is badly mistreating you, all bets are off.

Answer 2

I have been there and done that so you are going to get a different answer from me.
Deep inside I think my wife knows that I will do it again, because she knows that she is not doing anything to prevent it either.
I am not a saint and she is not a saint, so that puts us two in different shoes than most people.
I have to say this about the answers people give. If they are not the honest answer, and if you have not cheated at all before then I would rather deal with a cheater than a liar. They are both wrong but most of the time if you suspect someone is cheating, you will get the truth out of that person eventually, where if you lie once you will maintain lying which is the same thing as cheating.
It has been 8+ years since my wife and I have slept together, but my wife knows inside that I am not going to wait that long before I have to do anything. That is not human from female or male.

What do I think of affairs? If a person does not get satisfied at home, then he or she will eventually go elsewhere to get satisfied sooner or later. This is my honest answer on how I feel. I know some people may have a different opinion, but I appreciate your opinion as well.
Good Luck everyone, and have a great weekend.

Answer 3

I think that on a whole, affairs are not a good thing. I think that the worst part about an affair is the lying and misuse of trust. If you care enough about your relationship to be afraid of losing it, you shouldn't have an affair.

Answer 4

I've give my opinion on a similar question in the past. Here is what I wrote.................................

"I know that I'm going to make an enemy,(or a few) with my beliefs,but here goes......I think that it is in a man's nature to want a little extra tang on the side! & it should be more a forgivable thing,& a woman should be grilled if she cheats!

It's the pitch & catch rule........A guy is just shooting a wad,(external)!
A woman is catching a load,(internal).
A crank could be soap-ed up & washed off! A woman can take a shower & still have goo,oozing up inside them,so when the other guy comes along,he is licking,(if oral is involved) & rubbing his rod up against & through some other guy's creme! ........(I'm really sorry if I'm too graphic for some of you)"
So I think that an affair for a woman is nasty & un-acceptable,but for a guy........it's something thats more natural & forgive-able.

P.S. No I'm not one of those people who think that women are a lower class & not equal to men! it's just my opinion as far as affairs go!

Answer 5

Firstly.. you have to live life to understand what affairs are.. what they mean to the people concerned.. and learn not to judge. Seldom do you hear of an affair that hasn't hurt someone. But one of the ladies who answered... found her love out of social misery.. with a brute. So I don't know. But good question and the answers were really interesting.

Take care now.

Answer 6

Well it depends affairs can be defined as sins but at the same time they can be considered as an escape!
What I wanted to say is having an affair is absolutely wrong and especially if your married or with someone but at the same time an affair can be a need to give yourself this boost of self confidence and that you're still desired by the opposite sex especially if you're kind of ignored or mistreated by your partner. but I don't say it's right I think they're more of a need or as I said a boost of self confidence . but If you're married or in a relationship try to avoid them coz they destroy every little pure thing in this relationship.

Answer 7

I don't judge others for what they do and don't want others to judge me. You can't judge someone wihtout knowing what lead to what they did. I agree completely with Yougo, I have the feeling some people aren't being very honest when they answer this question.

I am in a loveless marriage but I have children to think of. Is it selfish of me to chose to stay with my so called husband to provide security for my children? Would my children be better off with one parent? Yes I admit it that I'm having an affair, with a married man who has also chosen to stay with his family for the sake of the children. We are not runnning a risk of giving our spouses any STD's as we don't sleep with them.

I will never love my husband again but I chose to provide a better home for my children until they are older. I have my needs and feelings and even though I love my children, I still want to be happy.

Before you judge me or anyone else, are you the perfect angel who never does anything wrong?

Answer 8

I don't think its a very nice thing to do to someone, having an affair. They only end up hurting a lot of people.

Answer 9

if you are the one being cheated on it really hurts bad, to love someone and think they are your world, and all of a sudden they have left you, than you discover there is another woman in your marriage who has taken your place in your husbands heart.and because of her he won't go to therapy, he won't help with the household bills because he is supporting her. all you can do at this point is move on even if it hurts, being kicked to the curb after 10 faithful years of marriage. sure there was reasons, marriage is tough, but it was nothing some therapy would not help.sure your not as young as you were once, maybe you have been putting on a few pounds, but your desperatly trying by going to weight watchers to diet. but out of the blue the day after christmas he leaves, you sit alone in the dark thinking he has just left for a few days, that you and he will talk and all will be well again, but than you hear about her, and than all of a sudden he is humiliating you finding falt giving reasons, and you know she is sitting there listening and taking it all in. you know she has no remorse cause she wants you to see her with your husband,so all you can do is move on and do your best. this is what i think of cheaters and affairs.

Answer 10

I have never had a affair!! I think that they are damaging and to many people get hurt. The grass is not always greener !!!