I had suspicions that he was married and asked him straight out on a number of occasions and he denied every time. now he knows i know and he told me it's not the 1st time. we have had unprotected sex, too. now he wants to talk to me because of all of his guilt and explain why. which i don't know if i'll give him the time of day. Of course he's all nicey now that I told him I may tell her. Should I? I don't think he should get off scott free and just walk away nice and clean.
2006-10-20 11:16:36 · 19 answers · asked by Beezer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know what? You should black mail him for money for 6 months or so, then send it to his wife, with a letter, and tell her to use the money to get the hell away from him.
2006-10-20 16:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We meet again.. Did any answers suit your fancy? I agree that someone was mislead after reading how you feel about your marriage. If it's not a bad marriage what is considered a good marriage! HMMMMM Well it's nice to hear your in love with the x anyway. If it wasn't a bad thing or something against your power that you and the other lady didn't end up together then of course it's OK to give it a try. If you feel you'll have REGRETS then keep it a friendship and save the marriage- You sound like your afraid of change. Or maybe you feel its just a fascination and not true.. I'm so sorry Bright Eyes I'm hurt to feel you so lost.. The best of wishes to you.. I hope you follow your heart and find the happiness you've spent a lifetime searching for-
2016-05-22 05:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should see him again...walk away.
But, as far as telling the wife, I am torn on that one...would you want to know if you were the wife? I probably would but that's just me...second, if you were the wife, how would you like that sort of information delivered?
I think it's always better to have the truth, rather than believe in a lie for the rest of your life...silence is complicity...but how can you just drop in out of the blue on someone and bring this up over a cup of coffee...you will need proof, photos, etc...and be prepared to testify in a divorce...there are a lot of downsides here. Good luck, and be careful out there.
2006-10-20 11:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were my husband I would want to know. It may be hard on the kids at first, but I know that it is probably not a very happy marraige. Especially if it isn't the first time.
Besides maybe they can go to counceling. Either way, they can never work it out or be truly happy if they are not truthful with each other. No, he should not get off scot free. Besides it can not be fun being the other woman. Good job, I would definitly stay away from him That is scum of the earth if you ask me.
2006-10-20 11:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. Only because he should never get away with something that serious. He has no respect for his wife, for you, or himself. And doing it unprotected??????
He may have been cheating on his wife with you, but you have to think about who was he cheating on BOTH you and his wife with?? There are diseases out there.........and that's wrong. So...on your way to the doctor to get checked out..........drop something in the mail, or make a little phone call, and let the wife know. Give explicit detail so that there won't be enough denial in the world for her to not acknowledge it!!!
2006-10-20 11:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should definitely tell her. She will probably be extremely angry at first, but I'm sure that later on she'll appreciate it, and it will be hard to do, but definitely worth it. If it's not the first time, then she either knows and doesn't care, or she honestly just doesn't have a clue. Either way, your health and hers is at risk. Get some std testing done as soon as you are able, give him the boot, and close that chapter of your life. It is very unfortunate that some people choose to play these kinds of games. Sorry it happened to you :(
2006-10-20 11:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't tell his wife. You also should not talk too him so he can "explain" because he's just going too feel your head full of lies. Let his wife find out on her own what he is doing, I'm sure she suspects him of cheating and if she wants,she can find out for sure, but I really advise against you being the one too tell her. It really won't make you feel any better in the long run. BUT...It never hurts too keep him guessing, wondering IF you might tell..That could be your sweet revenge right there..Might cause him quiet a few sleepless night.
2006-10-20 13:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were his wife, wouldn't you want to know. Go to her and explain that you two have been having a relationship and that you had no idea. Most importantly appologize to her for having the relationship even though you did not know he was married, it will mean alot to her that you were woman enough to tell her. And that will let her know that you do not intend to further the relationship...
Then I suggest that you BOTH confront him so that there is no way he can back you in a corner or deny it.
2006-10-20 11:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by Amber L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you have suspicions that he's being unfaithful to another woman why bother have a relationship with him ? you know if you know for a fact that hes married...do you want to continue in this charade...do you want to contribrute in another womans heartache...i wouldnt ...i would tell him to come clean and break up with him if i was you...and if hes doesnt then cut all ties...its not healthy for you to be with someone's husband right ? Think about this if you tell his wife you might cause problems but then you will clear you in the wrong...but then you might get him upset with you....i would just dump him and move on...walk out quietly
besides he lied in your face numerous times...cut yourself from this problem you deserve better
2006-10-20 11:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in the shoes of this man's wife, I would definately want to know if my husband was cheating. Of course, you need to protect yourself above all else, and if this man is at all vindictive, you could be putting yourself in a bad position. Just be careful.
Also, DON'T ever talk to him again...don't let him explain himself, because once a liar, always a liar.
2006-10-20 15:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋