Man, I feel so uncomfortable after interviews, I went in for one today, and afterwards I felt everyone who looked at me's eyes. I'm about to start an office job and I don't want it to be akward between my co-workers. The thing is, I'm a nervous wreck. Even seeing people out of the corner of my eye causes me to change how I feel and my mannerisms. I'm going to be right next to beautiful women all day who can feel the tenseness in my body, plus I have to type data entry. I ate a larabar after the interview and i've been so far tonight only drinking water and eating vegetables because it calms you down, but does anyone have any tips besides all of these procautions i'm taking? The thing is, not to even be concieted but i'm beautiful too so as I left today just every single person possible is staring at me and I feel like all of my actions were under a microscope or that the people looking got uncomfortable for themselves and didn't know what to do, what do you guys recomend?
2006-10-20 11:14:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
This is a pretty common problem. It sounds like you have social anxiety. There are several ways you can deal with this. The first is to see a counselor or therapist, which can probably recommend even more ways to deal with this problem. This is the best option, but if you're not interested in taking a step like that, you can also try this. Just continue to put yourself in situations where you are around other people, and have to interact with them, and eventually it will become easier. Keep telling yourself what you know, which is that they aren't actually all staring at you or judging you. They're probably wrapped up in their own lives. Don't let yourself get into any avoiding behaviour, because this will most definitely make the problem worse. Keep going to interviews and hanging around other people and you should be fine. If this doesn't work though, getting some counseling is a pretty helpful thing.
2006-10-20 11:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by twasbrillig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no offense but you sound a bit conceited. Have you ever considered seeing a doctor about anxiety? I'm no doctor, but it sounds to me like you may suffer from some sort of social anxiety disorder. Until you see a professional....I recommend drinking a half a glass of wine (enough to calm your nerves...NOT get drunk) before certain activities that make you uneasy. I did that before an interview once....breezed right through it and got the job! Different strokes for different folks, though. Good luck.
***P.S!!!! Eat something other than vegetables...your sugar level may be out of wack & that can cause the shakes and who knows what else!!!
2006-10-20 11:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by circa 1980 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my only tip to you is you better get over it if you decide to do office job cause now you are threat to them "you may have extraordinary skills" soon they will discover that you are normal guy and not super duper employee and accept you one of them and for the next threat in the office you will join them in worrying about
2016-05-22 05:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your fly was open.
2006-10-20 11:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋