I had a crush on him for like 8 mo., but I KNEW he was unobtainable because he is married with kids.He has flirted with me since the day we met(compliments, arm touching, looking into my eyes)So when I ran into him at school(in college/he was my teacher last semester)I would stop & talk to him. I never thought anyting more would happen.We both get out of class at the same time.We are alone one night (I am just expecting to talk) and out of the blue he kisses me.I could not resist because I have had a crush on him 4ever, we make out (he kisses me deeply & touches me all over)Then next time I see him, he tells me he can't do it anymore because of his family.He continues to flirt, compliment me. Then all the sudden one night it happens again. I was so supprised. Then he tells me he can't again, but I am beautiful, I'm sorry I hurt you, I like you as person, bla bla. I haven't seen him in two weeks bcus I am avoiding him& I know I shouldn't be messing with a married man.
2006-10-20 11:03:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he just wanted me for sex, then he would have had sex with me, right. I really liked him and don't know what he wants from me. Why is he going back and forth like that?
2006-10-20 11:05:07 · update #1
Here's a serious answer ...you didnt come here to be dissed you obviously had a serious problem here ....i admit it im no angel when it comes to flirting and getting myself in hot water...Married men and married women are off limits...if he tells you compliments take them as compliments but if you know hes married and then he flirts and makes out then you really cant blame just you...you need to stay away from him honey...he is obviously having mixed emotions and you need to stay away im serious...you dont want to mess with a married man. he needs to be faithful and stop messing around and for you to help him dont give in to his advances although hes cute and nice and sexy whatever use your brain stay away. Think about his family even if he doesnt. The reason why he says he cant and all that is because he is realizing hes doing something wrong but momentarily forgets when he sees you....You cant help that you are attractive honey but you can tell him to leave you alone....stay clear from him ...leave early a couple minutes and tell him to be faithful to his wife....thats all you can do ....it seems like hes falling but he realizes hes wrong or he could be playing with your emotions either way dont fall into his games....i know temptation and i was tempted and sin once ...never again and when you tell him be firm and stay away and tell him to leave you alone and make it work with his wife...
2006-10-20 11:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't say it because everyone else has (he's married). Sometimes men can be sneaky little things. Maybe he does just want sex, but knows he can't just waltz in and out so easily. He is trying to see how far you are willing to let him go and how far he can let himself go. It seems each time he has made a move it has gone farther. First it was just kissing and touching, then it was kissing, touching, and letting you know how much he really does like you. Married men almost never leave their wives. If the wife finds out about it, he will more than likely just blame it on you that you seduced him, and make you look bad. Good luck. I would just keep avoiding him. And remember if he will cheat with you, he will cheat on you!
2006-10-20 11:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid this guy at all costs. This is a pattern and fairly common. I am sure he is attracted to you, but this is a game. He gets 90% of the excitement without "really" going all the way, his defense should he get caught. He's using the same charm on his wife when she finds little things a miss. Don't fool yourself, I would be willing to bet there are several pretty young students he's playing the game with in addition to you.
2006-10-20 11:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he really wants you, but he doesn't want to come across to you as a cheater. He is going to ease into things with you. You will end up doing something you will regret. The best thing you can do is avoid him. Don't put yourself in a situation where you will have to make a descion not to have sex with him. I am afraid you won't make the right descion.
2006-10-20 11:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to hear words of encouragement from you. You really need to think about this especially if it continues. Right now you are only thinking about how you feel about him and his mixed messages are only making it more intense.
What do you think of him having sex with you and going home and having sex with her. And if he stops having sex with her how long do you think that will last before she catches on. How would you handle a phone call from her? What would you do if she was to show up at your door. And for God's sake what about his kid's.
If you really think about it, serious thought, you really don't want to be the other woman. It's time to start thinking...go...think about all scenarios, the wife, the kids and how your going to feel about yourself.
2006-10-20 12:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Plain Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a man. Men have trouble thinking. Deep thinking often paralyzes them. The future mystifies them. Maybe he discovered his wife has taken up target shooting? Who knows what goes on in his mind. Men and women have a very hard time figuring each other out. Good luck.
2006-10-20 11:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going back and forth, because you are allowing him to. Why would you put yourself in this predicament? You should not have to avoid him, just tell him, to forget it. do not mess up your life any more, to go home to his family. Now you have to mean what you say, Do not waste your time on a married man, he is just going to tie up your life, going no where.
2006-10-20 11:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him! He's married- just leave him alone, if he tries something with you, tell him to back off- although you should not put yourself into a situation where that could happen
2006-10-20 11:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants a chick on the side that wont mess up his family at home....are you completely clueless? ... come on...not trying to be mean but, wake up...look in the mirror and ask yourself what you are worth...then, accept nothing less than that from a man...if you feel this is all you are worth then, congrats...you just hit the lottery!
2006-10-20 11:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by Carmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may like you but also knows he made a promise and commitment, and he needs to fulfill his commitment or end it before exploring other options
2006-10-20 11:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by thatoneguy00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋