Why do people judge me before they get to know me?

Question

im always put in the category of being a b*tch or having a bad attitude.Thats not me and kills me the way people are so judgemental.

Answer 1

I know how you feel. Maybe you give a bad first impression. Or possibly don't look friendly and approachable. When I think people think bad thoughts about me I like to be very nice to them. It's called killing them kindness. Make them think they are the bitches. I think this approach works well. If not........carma will get them in the end!

Answer 2

people always make a first impression and based upon that first impression you either come off as bitchy or nice. but the truth is that first impressions are deceivig if you ask me and everyone else! maybe people look at you like that because to them you seem intimidating or the kind of person who would be a ***** therefore they assume certain things about you. maybe it is that you actually are confident and might a snobish attitute as they perceive it. maybe they heard that you were a bitchy person person because their friends made some comment about you. it is human nature to judge some one before getting to know the peson only to later realize that they are nothing that you expected them to be when you sit and talk with them. people will always be judgemental and make commets about other people and how they categorize or see the people just by looking at them, which is bs! just because they saw you 3 times does not mean that you are a ***** or have abad attitude unless you are a snob to everyobe, act arrogant or give them a reason to believe that.

Answer 3

Maybe you act/react in a defensive nature subconsciously and it's that mannerism that people are associating with being a b*tch. I once knew a girl that always had a frown and was really short with people. At first I thought she was a major B, but after a short while she quit frowning when we would talk and was pretty cool.

Can't say if this is what's going on with your situation though, but thought I'd toss it out there anyway.

Answer 4

i have that same problem people say i look mean or that i look like a bi$@# also they say i roll my eyes at them or look unapproachable and although i can be that way at times I'm normally not that way nor do i notice when im looking so unfriendly toward others...anyway i don't care that's just how it is with me it was more of a problem as a child because girls would want to fight me...if you want to fix the problem just try being smiley toward others, talk to them first don't wait for them to talk to you, make small talk, use your personality to get them to like you before the supposed look on your face scares them off!!

Answer 5

its in our nature to judge. i know everyone does it even if they dont want to. first off, we look at appearence. that is the most important thing for first impressions.

ex. girls always go talk to hot/cute guys even if their jerks. the nice/not so good looking guy isnt as cute yet girl/guys prefer the hot looking one. because people judge before they know.

Answer 6

They do that to me to. Everyone calls me a dumb blond and tells dumb blond jokes and says stuff like; one boy called me stacks.
Then all the boys laughed at me like I was a freak.
They don't even know me and that hurts my feelings.
One boy followed us home from school and kept pulling my hair.
I told him to stop and he ran back and then just kept coming.
that is really rude. when someone says to stop you should do that. Don't you think?

Answer 7

People usually judge us by our attitudes and the way we treat others, so if the shoe fits wear it.

Answer 8

they judge because they lack something in themselves... usually they are threatened by someone with looks and personality.

Answer 9

People who judge are typically fearful of those who are difference or those that intimidate them. ditch them, be yourself, be strong and know who you are

Answer 10

I'd say your first impression is not very good. Work on that.