How close is too close?

Question

My husband and I have a very happy marriage. Within this happiness I know we should also becareful as to not be caught off guard as in doing or saying things to others that may disrespect our marriage. If we are close to our co-workers of the opposite sex and talk about them frequently when we get home to our partners, would that be a sign of disrespect? And if not , then how close is too close?

Answer 1

Bless you for a lucid question and acute sensitivity. Too close is anything your mate would be hurt by if he/she was standing beside you.

Answer 2

My team is all male. My wife works with a bunch of paramedics, firefighters, etc. She talks about them all the time. Some of them are her close friends. Several have been over to the house. One even has a key in case we're gone. I've never felt threatened, or insecure, or jealous. Why should I? She could have chosen any one of them instead of me, any time she liked. She didn't. I trust her faithfulness and am confident of my own value to her; regardless of the additional value of our home and family.
How strong is your marriage?

Answer 3

Too close is that feeling of 'uncertainty'. You know, you have felt that before. Talking about co-workers of the opposite sex should be' comfortable', with the both of you. Its when you quit talking about them, that is when I get a 'little worried' about! :)

Answer 4

Too close is allowing yourself to get emotionally attached to the individual. Usually allowing your self to be in a secluded place talking about your most inner secrets or problems in your relationships.

Answer 5

I don't think you should hang out with a co worker outside of work without your spouse. To me that is asking for danger.