My sister and I are in middle school and we have a few friends that continue to use us. They're popular and we're not so I'm afraid that if wwe tell them exactly how rude they are and how pissed we are with them, they will send our reputations down the toilet. Everytime we hang out with them, they say something like "wouldn't it be great if all of us could have a sleepover at your house?", or something else implying that we have to be the hosts everytime. Then say we go to go-karts. They always say, "let's ride partners" and then my sister and I say "who would be partners with who?"and they always partner up with eachother. Why would I invite friends over if all I was gonna do is hang out with my sister and my mom has to pay for them. After racecars we go to the movies or something. They always say "oops, I forgot my money" so taht my mom will pay for them and often times, they invite a couple of friends to the movies aswell without our consent. Stuff like this has happened many times.
2006-10-20 10:45:12 · 3 answers · asked by Elizabeth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well first of all it's your sister's and your fault for getting yourself into that mess in the first place, and if your mom can't see that your so "Called" friend's are using you then there is something seriously wrong with that! Reputation huh? Don't think about and being popular because as you get older it won't matter, people like that don't end up doing something with they're life, the only thing girl's like that are best known for is getting knocked up right after high school and not getting they're education and end up with a low life of a husband who beat's them and cheat's on them....just remind them about that when they want to talk trash about you and saying "your not going to be anyone without us in the future" Yea right! Have you ever heard of Bill Gates sweetie? Well he's one of the richest men in the world...and believe me he was not popular...if you show them that you care so much about being COOL then they know that they can break you into two...you have to let them know that popularity doesn't matter to you and just walk around and act like your already cool and you don't need them, and they'll think "what the hell?!" Never show your fear....instead look into the eyes of fear and tell them....LATER! It may sound dumb to you but believe me I'm only 19 graduated in 2005 and I was never POPULAR because I didn't believe in all that...to me it was pointless and stupid! I used to though, and it got me nowhere, they used me too but I realized I didn't need them for people to notice me and like me, I discovered my hidden talent's and I joined the dance team because that was what I loved to do, and as day's passed I started to notice that I was saying hello to practically everyone I passed bye and they were greeting me because they knew me....why? Because I found out that people like the REAL ME, I'm funny, smart, and outgoing and don't let anyone bring me down...stand up for yourselves and you'll see the differance soon. Hope I helped. Bye. -Michelle
2006-10-20 10:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥MicHeLLe♥♥ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have a very low self esteem.
Once you start to look at yourself in a different light, that is, realise that you deserve better than these people to have as friends, you won't be used.
Surely there are a lot more people in your school that you would be happy to be friends with.
Getting around with the "popular" people doesn't exactly make you popular...does it?......so why are you wasting your time with people who only use you and care only about themselves.
Believe me if you get away from these people and move onto people who are more considerate and caring, you will have more fun and have a hassle free life.
You don't have to say anything to these people, just don't be there for them and they will quickly find some other suckers to take your place.
They are bullies and if you accept their behaviour towards you, you are condoning their actions and I'm sure you don't want that........do you!
Show them that you are above their kind of behaviour and enjoy the change, you won't regret it.
2006-10-20 10:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by slipper 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
here's a hug!
just ignore them from now on as they are obviously not friends at all and soon you'll find people who will have the same interests as you and respect you...
2006-10-20 10:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by jazzy_chica85 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋