i feel bad because i keep letting my parents down which in turn makes them fight and i hate seeing them sad because tyhey do nothing to deserve that and i dont know what to do about it. I also keep making bad decisions and i dont know why. it kills me because i have a goiod life im in hockey and i have wonderful parents who all do is love me and i keep letting them down.. HOWE DO I STOP?
2006-10-20 10:14:21 · 16 answers · asked by Troy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
look dude we all choices to make. whenever you feel like you are going to make the wrong choice ask yourself if that is what your parents would want you to do. then ask yourself if you love them enough to make the right choice.
2006-10-20 18:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by staqk3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can cause major stress in your family by making bad desisions (drugs, slacking grades, bad friends, partying ect) But never think your parents are gonna get devorced because of you. I guess if you are causing your family problems, you should re-evaluate your actions. No one else can control you, your future or your actions. Only you. I personally have had some issues taking out stress the wrong ways. Nothing serious. Not eating right, I dropped out of some clubs, and I haven't been sleeping, so I think it's a teenager thing. Everyone goes through this crap.
Good luck, and remember, you're not alone.
2006-10-20 18:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by amor fati 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do it because you are literally a walking container of raging hormones.
One one hand, you want to stay a kid, with all the carefree fun that entails, yet you long to make your OWN decisions & be treated as an adult!!
Hon, 90% of all young people go through this. Your behavior will even out when your hormones do! Your parents will know this and just keep soldiering on until life settles down (if they are SMART). Anyway, we have ALL been there--some, like me, from BOTH kid & parent side.
I turned out fine, and you will too.
2006-10-20 17:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is discipline my young one. Discipline on your part to do what you need to do and of what is expected of you.
As for your parents fighting, it's never your fault. They are in disagreement as to what to do with you and/or about dealing with you.
Bad decisions can be an influential factor from others around you, such as friends. You are not letting them down as much as they feel they are not doing a good job.
I always tell my son who is 12, "my job is to take care of you and help you grow up. If you are not making the right decisions then I'm not doing my job."
2006-10-20 17:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by SE_FU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I like the fact that you indicate that you have wonderful parents. Tell them that when ever you do something bad just tell them, it was a mistake and you know that you can change bad habits and that you can make better decisions in the future. That's all. All of the other answers should also be taken and considered.
2006-10-20 17:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Karina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you letting them down? Is it grades? Do you hang with a bad crowd? Tell your parents that you would like to stop letting them down and ask them for their advice. Also tell them that you are not perfect and if you make a mistake, it hurts you the hear them fighting.
2006-10-20 17:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good life and you love your parents and you do respect them too or else you wouldn't feel bad. If you have all of that . you are so very lucky ... you need reality check about your self. you need to remember that you are loved very much . Each time you know you will be letting your parents down, Stop...Think....They are why you have a good life .
2006-10-20 17:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we really do need some more details on this question hun. what are you doing that is letting them down? are your grades low? do you sometimes make bad decisions? date the "wrong" people? are you not really interested in what they want you to be? what's going on? maybe if we know these things, we can help you a abit better.
2006-10-20 19:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Donna L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww i think that is the sweetest thing i have heard a guy say! If you want to change you will change. Think twice before doing something. And maybe it is who you are hangigng around who influence you. good luck
2006-10-20 19:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak with your school counceler or a trusted teacher.. They'll be able to help you start an outline to how to improve your relationship with your parents, and your decisions
2006-10-20 17:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋