is it normal for an 8th grader to HATE being at home, love being with her "2nd mom" and her kids, and openly hate her parents, i feel like i dont belong w/ them, and i fell in love woth another family, who accepts me for who i am, not what my parents expect me to be. What do i do, my @nd mom is my Conformation Sponsor??
2006-10-20 10:01:39 · 6 answers · asked by Me 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Your parents have their faults, but you should still love and respect them. You are entitled to your feelings about your parents, but discuss what you don't like with them. If we only love people that love us, we're setting out for a course of destruction. Do you not like your parents, because they are too strict? Have you ever thought they are like this because they love and care about what is best for you?
2006-10-20 10:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally nature to hate your parents at your age. Why? Because they have your best interest at hand. You may not see it that way because your young and don't know much yet. You are just starting to taste freedom and parents hold you back for your protection but again you don't see it that way. You think they don't understand but they do. They where you age once and I'm sure they hated their parents.
Your second family does not have the same interest as real parents. They may love you and take care of you but MOM is MOM and no one loves you like a REAL MOM.
You also have to understand they mom #2 can be more flexible because you don't live with her. Rules are more relaxed and it's more fun. But ask your self this. If I lived with #2 mom would it be any different now that she has full control you.
Communication is always the best way to chat with parents. Trust me, we do understand. Best of luck...
2006-10-20 10:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by SE_FU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying "You can pick you friends, you can pick your nose, but you can't pick you family".
It's easy to like other families as you only spend limited time with them. You only see the good. Enjoy their company.
Your parents are responsible for you and probably do stuff you don't like, but will appreciate in the future. It's not as easy raising kids as you think.
I would openly discuss the issues with who you are with your parents. Remember, it's just as difficult to let go of your children are as they grow up so fast. You are changing and your parents are thinking of you as the little girl you were at 5. Get some communication going!
Don't do anything you will regret such as "divorcing" your family. That is just running away from the situation. If you "divorced" your family, where would you go? Would the family you reference willing to take you in? What if they said they wouldn't?
Think of it this way, would you want your kids to do and think of you the way you do towards your family?
2006-10-20 10:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by Joe S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl it is perfectly normal i feel the same way with my like 2nd mom shes cool and i can be who i want around her and she loves me as if im hers its normal u r a teen just like any other they dont want to be with there family either its sooooooooooo boring by the way im in the 8th grade to
2006-10-20 12:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HATE is a pretty strong word don't you think?
Sure, your feelings are normal----they should go away in a few...years! Trust me, your parents feel the same way ^_* !
2006-10-20 10:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by darlene w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, just know when to draw the line, they should still have dinner at your house 4 out of 7 days of the week ALWAYS!
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2006-10-20 10:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by SlapADog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋