i was engaged to someone whom i didn't know very well, during the engagement , he was telling me all the time that he can't live without me, that he was not living before we met, he was extremly in love with me.. an so on. he was from another city, but as he said, he was ready to leave his city and come to live here in mine.suddenly, one day he came to me saying that there was a new events persuading him to live in his city(a matter related to his work) ofcourse i agreed, i standed aganist my family whom refused the idea of travelling to another city.i did my best to let them agree,and they finally agreed, then he came with another problem wich is dady must give him money to finish preparing his apartment for marriage plus getting all the furniture as he has no more money after buying the apartment.once he told me that, i ended the call coldly with him and never called him again, i felt he was deceving me and not truly in love... plz tell me, am i right or wrong :-(
2006-10-20 09:11:58 · 15 answers · asked by pepo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds to me (been through it before) that he was waiting for you to start paying for his "love", kudos to you for being strong enough to end the call and never call again because you might have saved yourself a broken heart and empty wallet
2006-10-20 09:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by princesstheruler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of us know what he feels, but I find it very difficult to believe either of you could love each other without spending much time together. You might have loved the idea of making this work.
This is obviously a different culture than mine, in the US, but I suggest maybe you ask him if he thinks you are going to get married or not and when. That should give you a good idea of what to do with your life.
2006-10-20 16:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were wrong, You should have just waited and see what would have happened, maybe he wanted you to come to a bigger home, and you just never gave him a chance,
in another hand, if he hasn't called you, and you haven't called him, maybe that's what he wanted, but couldn't do it... is break up with you. That's a tough one but It all depends if he has tried calling you, if he hasn't then I would think the 2nd paragraph is more likely
2006-10-20 16:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't say you are right or wrong , but tell you something , if someone really loves you , then he will try to call you back and persuade you to give him time.
it happened to me as well , i am student now and i can't buy a house and car , but my gf still stay with me and she gave me time to build up my future and marry her.
whatever you did was right cause in that situation you felt that way , but the rest depends on your bf , if he wants you , then he will try his best you win your heart.
wish you luck.
2006-10-20 16:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little bit of help if he ask for it, its OK but it sounds like to much he was asking you for. So i think you did the write thing.
2006-10-20 16:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you as much as you said he loved you he would have called you back.
2006-10-20 17:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwww thats so sad!!!! im really sorry ! he probably still loves u but if he was in really love with u lik eh said he would call u or something.....
2006-10-20 16:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by Zee babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts, if your gut is telling you something aint right, it probably isn't.
2006-10-20 17:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE END - keep the good memory.
2006-10-20 16:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was deceving you and not truly in love
2006-10-20 16:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋