College educated daughter of girlfriend, employed as a Teacher $35000 a year continues to need financial aid. Has several bad habits(smoker and drinker).
2006-10-20 09:04:14 · 13 answers · asked by Alex Freaking Trebek 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think the parent has to stop coming to the aid of her children, financially. Personally speaking, for three years, I "rescued" my adult sons (i.e., paying their car note bills, insurance, groceries, credit card bills, etc.) while they enjoyed several bad habits (i.e., smoking, drinking, etc.). This was exceptionally tiring on my bank account but "mother guilt" paved the way as an excuse. Once I put a stand on "tough love," and refused to pay another bill for them (this took more than ONE stand, however), they finally became financially independent. Admittedly, it took a severe cutting off of assistance from me, unfortunately. But it is better to teach them than be an enabler for their irresponsible behavior.
2006-10-20 09:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing to help out a kid in college, but when they get a job its time to cut those apron strings. Help her work out a budget and stick to it. Actually, first she needs to establish some financial goals. Her first goal is to pay herself first out of every paycheck and put it in a savings account. Then when she runs out of money she can go to the savings account and help herself. I think if a person can get a teaching crdential and make lesson plans for the week, they should be able to manage their own money.
2006-10-20 09:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to be kicked out on her a@@ and made to be responsible. maybe her mother is an enabler and if that's the case then your in trouble, run while you still can the mom is not gonna put the loser out, i don't care how much she makes she is still a loser if she has habits and if she is a teacher then she really needs her own place she makes enough to live on but she has habits so she needs mom still for help. no good
2006-10-20 09:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that young adults are spending more and more time (longer and longer) living at home. I suggest just having a talk with her and letting her know you guys are there for her but she needs to start thinking about moving out and making a life for herself. :)
2006-10-20 09:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a financial adviser's phone number and buy her a book on how to save money.
2006-10-20 09:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by mmshall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop supporting her financially. But help her to work out a budget and stick to it. She needs to learn to live within her means.
And if that means having to stop smoking and drinking, so be it.
2006-10-20 09:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by in vino veritas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy this gets me mad! Get a new girlfriend and stop enabling the daughter!
2006-10-20 09:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by zoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, hmmm. How about, "Sorry, dear. NO!"
She is apparently living beyond her means. The only way to teach to live within them is to stop supplying the extra.
2006-10-20 09:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give them anything, that will get them independant in a hurry. Why should they quit smoking, drinking, or anything if they keep getting bailed out with free money.
2006-10-20 09:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to start whe they are young. Right now they are old enough to know better or burn in the pit. It looks like they are burning in the pit.
2006-10-20 09:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋