After five years of being in the relationship things started going down hill but i did everything in my power to keep everything going and then he decided to give up on the everything including the relationship. Knowing now that things arent going to work out, How do you so to speak "Move On" ?
2006-10-20 08:51:46 · 15 answers · asked by jroman1984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just knowing you did everything in your power to keep it going is part of your therapy. Just remember that it was his decision to terminate the relationship. Enjoy your freedom as you can. Just know that there is a person out there waiting for you. In the meantime Pray for that right person to come in your path. Have patience because God may need to get him ready for you.
2006-10-20 09:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by money 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to sit there and think that your life is not so bad and how bad other people have it! look, my friend got out of a 5 year relationship and she broke up ople with the guy but she just had to do it. now she looks at the past 5 years as a mere memory, but everyday she would get up and tell herself that today is another day, another chance to do something better than yesterday and to appreciate life. after the relationship is over i know that it hurts to be heart broken but you just have to wake up each day and make the most of it! surround yourself with family and friends and do some things that you miss doing like for ex. camping or walking on trails in a park or something that will help you forge rough times you are going thru right now. having a supportive family as well as friends is one of the most important things in taking the first step to move on since they are the ones who will keep you busy and make you forget or stop thinking about moving on!you cannot dwell and if you do life will pass you by, things will change and nothing will be what it was before! just take it one day at a time and make the most of your day! plus there are other guys out there so think of what happened as an experience and something that will help you become stronger as well as wiser! the wiser people are the ones who do not give up nor stop learning and like to he embrace life on a day to day basis! i hope that what i wrote was of great help.
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2006-10-20 09:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there! Only mine was only 4 years and it turned emotionally abusive...
Here's what worked for me: I stopped dating. Well, at least for awhile. I met a group of great girls who were mega supportive and we just had a great time. One of them had actually just left a relationship much like mine only worse, so we were really connected.
Get involved with new things. Meet new people. Relationships fail and there are always reasons for it. He/she obviously is not the person you were meant to be with. Eventually you'll meet someone better for you.
My best advice to live your life how you want. After I left this guy I realized I had missed out on so much because it wasn't what he liked, he wouldn't let me, etc.
2006-10-20 08:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sativa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't sense below worth because in spite of the actual incontrovertible truth that his mom gave the look to be doing it desirous about him, she replaced into probable no longer operating and going to school 3 nights a week. positioned a concern on issues and in case you are able to't get something carried out without help, do not do it. you're important to him for doing this stuff, notwithstanding the question you would possibly want to be asking, is he important to you? If he's taking you with none interest now, he maximum likely will after the marriage so that you ought to ask your self even if it is what you want for something of your life. what's he doing if you're operating and in college? if you're uncertain of what to do, the perfect element to do might want to be to delay the marriage until eventually you're particular and probably even advise counseling mutually before the marriage so that you both comprehend what you're shifting into to. the actual incontrovertible truth that he makes relaxing of you once you communicate over with him about the way you sense is a foul signal that he might want to no longer be the man you imagine he's or fell in love with, or possibly a foul determination on your section. and it is extra constructive to locate that out now particularly than after the marriage.
2016-12-05 01:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats like asking how to create a new universe...literally....R u broke up yet? If you are doing the breaking, it should be hella lot easier on YOU. But you will find yourself missing him/her. When in reality you aren't missing that person, u are missing the comfortability of that relationship, in my experience anyway. Just avoid that person, meet new people, do things, and get yourself out and about. you will be happy u did and respected yourself that you are worth it.
2006-10-20 08:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by ezrax7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop dwelling on the the past five years, for a start, and everything else will fall in their proper places
2006-10-20 08:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Nelson M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time. Keep yourself busy, and don't focus on finding someone else right away, try to focus on building yourself up.
2006-10-20 08:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by eyew@nnacoolnick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your a christian read the word. be around friends and family serve in your community help the homeless and you'll move on and forward. If your not suffer get drunk and dwell in your sorrows
2006-10-20 08:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by hawop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time sweetie. There's really nothing you can do except surround yourself with who you think are good people and keep yourself occupied. You'll be o.k.
2006-10-20 08:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone asks you out go and have a good time...just keep on living...ive been there....time will help some
2006-10-20 08:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋