My man and I have been fighting A LOT lately and I don't know what to do. He has an ego bigger than the world; he thinks he is better than everyone else and on top of that he treats me like crap. He is always yelling at me that I don't do things right. That I act like a child and I'm a spoiled little brat. We have a baby together and he tries to do nice things for me but we always end up in a fight cause I get mad at something he said or something he did. He complained that I didn't have a full time job while I was preganat and since having the baby I have a full time job and now it's I don't have my own car. He won't help me get a car. I pay for almost everything I need and my daughter needs, but I don't have the money to leave him. I'm so confused and I don't know what to do. I've made an appointment to go to a counsiler but I don't know if it is going to help. He has never been able to depend on someone and anything he does care about he runs off so he won't get hurt again.
2006-10-20 08:48:18 · 13 answers · asked by Kimberly S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl, you need to leave him alone. You don't deserve to be treated like a dog and yelled at and disrespected. You are a woman and a mother. your daughter don't need to see you being mistreated by her father because she will think that's the way that she should be treated. Don't take that, leave him alone and let yourself be happy.
PLEASE I HOPE YOU DONT TAKE OFFENSE TO THIS BUT...
If you are being mistreated you need to leave and make a better life for you and your child. I know you said things a tough financially but God will make away for you. He rather for you to be happy and have a good life with you and your child than for you to be sitting there being mistreated and to be treated like dirt. God will make a way for yall and take care of you. I hope this helps and that you make the right decision to help protect yourself and to protect the growth of your daughter.
Good Luck
2006-10-20 09:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a 57 year old multi-grandchild, 6 children woman. I have been divorced and remarried. I feel qualified to submit an answer: Yep, you've got problems. First, he is obviously out of control but some of that you allowed. It sounds like you might be a little hypersensitive about what he says or does which probably has grown from previous dealings with him. One of the great facts of life is PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE! That means, with the rare exception of a person who has a personal epiphany such as near death or the threat of death, people are what they are and no amount of counseling for you will ever change him. There are community resources available to help you financially if you will just get out; your counselor will have info. Good luck, hope I don't see you sending this same question again in six months.
2006-10-20 15:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by SANDI T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. It's not going to get any better. Take the baby, go to a woman's shelter. Continue with your job. He will eventually tell you Baby i was wrong, give me a chance, I'll change. If you choose to believe these lies then girl you will end up in the same mess. no one can give you the answers I think if you search your heart you all ready know. Now the rest is up to you.
2006-10-20 15:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the counselor is a great 1st step. She can also help you clear your head and look at things so they won't be so confusing. Don't let your BF convine or pursade you that you are hurting him by leaving. That is part of the cycle of Domestic Abuse. Domestic Abuse does not have to be physical, it can be emotional, which is sounds like it is. Google, Domestic Abuse or Domestic Violence. So happens this is Domestic Abuse Prevention month. He also sounds controlling. Please do not stay with him. you are doing good by going to conseling. just be strong and get out on your own as quick as you can so you can live your life, it will be the best thing you ever do for yourself and your baby.
2006-10-20 15:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by bubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that your self esteem is shot and so you deal with this situation. Remember, that only you can make this situation better by boosting yourself up and tell your self that you can make it without this man. Life is to short to sit there and be unhappy because he has issues of his own that he needs to look into. You have a child that did not ask to be brought into this world and the best thing you can do is show her the best in life.
2006-10-20 16:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i have to say wow...
You sound almost exactly like my wife... She is always complaining that I don't do enough for her... Except that she has no job. We want her to be able to stay at home and raise our family. She has a car that I bought her.
Maybe you two should get together and talk.
You could compare notes, and ***** about the men that are supporting you...
Might help.
2006-10-20 15:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is stick with the counseling. A good counselor will help you figure out what you need to do, but it will take some time.
2006-10-20 15:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetie. you dont deserve to be treated like that. LEAVE HIM- you know that you deserve better. Guys dont change. and dont sit and wait for him to. there is someone out there that will treat you like the princess you are:) BE STRONG!
2006-10-20 15:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by gracin_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him!! Get your parents help and dump his ***! Do it for you daughter! your friends and parents will help! DUMP HIM LIKE LAST MONTHS SHOES!!- Line from a TV show. Forget about him and find someone better!!!!!
2006-10-20 15:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by SeijuxChan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents they should care about and help you get off.
This guy is pissy shiet.
2006-10-20 15:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋