we've been together for 7 months and were getting ready to get married.
2006-10-20 08:45:52 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure. IF you're the self-absorbed, shallow, selfish, unfeeling ***** you make yourself out to be. If all you want to marry a guy for is his sperm, then you certainly are in it for the wrong friggin' reason. And here I was thinking MOST people got married because they at least CARED about one another. Wow, am I old-fashioned!
Hell and damnation! Your name is "parent of four"... which I would take to mean you already HAVE FOUR KIDS. I think you've already done your part in overpopulating this planet, thank you very much.
I hope to hell that the guy you're feeling like this over reads this posting and kicks your dumb @ss to the curb.
Get a grip, you stupid trollop.
2006-10-20 09:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you going to marry him just to have kids? Or did you agree to marry him because you UNCONDITIONALLY love him? If you awnt kids & he doesn't and that is a major hangup with you then you need to rethink things & talk to him about it.
Some might even say that 7 months is soon but I was the same way. I got perposed to at 7 months.
I did not know my husband well enough when we got married, but he is a great guy and we meet in the middle with just about everything.
If you are ever even 1% unsure you want to not get married then DON'T.
Good luck.
2006-10-20 09:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by staxi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would consider ending things with him because he can't have children, you probably shouldn't be with him. Love is something that isn't often found and real and if you would consider leaving him for that reason, it isn't real love. Like others said, you can adopt, or do in-vitro (sp.). There are so many girls having babies that aren't able to take care of them, I'm sure they can be found at the local high school and I think you would be able to do that- that of course is IF you love this man enough to overcome the fact that it would not be a child that was created by both he and you.
2006-10-20 09:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm young and I dont think I would do that say you didnt have kids and he left you cause you couldnt that would be a kick in the gut there are many kids that need families adopt or goto a sperm bank there are other alternatives
ps if you love him enough to get married that shouldnt be a factor you shouldve thought about that before taking a ring
2006-10-20 08:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by kandigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. You can always adopt - which is a more noble way of raising children. If you have commited yourself to this person, why would you leave them for something like that? Being with the one you truly love is more important. Think about what you would prefer - be with the one you love without your own biological children and adopt later? or would you rather have your own biological children with someone you may not love as much?
2006-10-20 08:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Sirena 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want children and he does not then don't bother getting married. If he wants children and can't produce, then I think you should talk to him about it and let him know what it is the both of you plan on doing in the long haul. Be careful however, once your commited it could go against you if you don't bring this to his attention.
2006-10-20 08:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If having children is a big priority to you then yes. However, if this man is right for you in every other way then you may want to discuss the alternatives before you get married.
2006-10-20 09:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your own biological children, then yes, you should leave him and not marry him. He may be a great guy but if you really want children, you will never be fully happy and complete.
You could consider adoption. If you are comfortable with not having carried you own child, adopt them. Does he even what children? If he doesn't want children and you do, that is a big problem.
You could consider a sperm bank. The child won't be biologically his but he can still be the father who raised this child. This child will be biologically yours and you both will love it.
Talk to your man about this to see what he wants and thinks about all of this. Talk to yourself to see what you really want and don't get into something that you will regret later. You will be miserable if you don't talk about it now.
2006-10-20 08:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by truly 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can he not have children because he voluntarily sterilized himself or can he not have kids because of a health issue? If it's the latter, he may still want to have kids, but you'll have to adopt. If it's the former, he may not want to have kids, ever. More info would be helpful, but discuss this deeply before getting married.
2006-10-20 08:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you; as long as you can accept that he will not be able to father children, you shouldn't leave him. You might need to adjust your plans a bit - consider adoption or artificial insemination, or you could forego having kids altogether. This is something you will have to decide for yourself. If none of these options are acceptable to you - then you have no choice but to leave and look for someome who meets your criteria.
2006-10-20 09:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋