My fella's soon to be ex wife refuses to let me meet his son unless she meets me first. Is there a law that states this is possible. I was in no way responsible for their break up. I also have a child the same age.
2006-10-20 08:38:54 · 14 answers · asked by Kizzy_ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your fella is bringing you around tooooo soon. He isnt even divorced yet and you are in the picture. This means had he a chance to reconcile with his wife you are now the reason he didnt. Kids should not be subjected to mom or dads new bf/gf until it appears they may become part of the family. A kid could get attached to you and when you break it off suddenly they have lost another adult in their life. You need to not meet the kid until his daddy is ready to marry you. Btw you are a rebound woman so dont be surprised if he dumps you.
2006-10-20 08:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, there isn't an actual Law that states you have too meet with her before she lets you meet her son, But I'm telling you...If you refuse too meet her It's not going too look good on you at all!! She's only looking out for her child. I have children so I can see where she's coming from, you have a child, so think about it..wouldn't YOU want too meet the woman that is going too be hanging around your child occasionally? Sure you would.
Go meet the woman, put on your best clothes, make sure your make-up is just right and hold your head up high...You have nothing too be ashamed of since you didn't have anything too do with the break up of the marriage. Meet her, and be nice, (even if she tries too get you riled up lol ) Good luck..
2006-10-20 10:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has every right to want to meet anyone he sees. As does he. If she is seeing someone, he has every right to meet him. The child is the most important thing in the whole relationship. If the shoe was on the other foot, he would want to meet hers as well. I have been through this, I am a single mother of one, and I have met some interesting women , some of them were not suitable for my child to be around, but he wasn't thinking about the motherly type, or his child, he was thinking with his pants. To him it didn't matter. He was thinking of his needs. So yes, she has every right to want to meet anyone he sees. From experience, she can have a petition filed through the court system to keep anyone whom she believes is not fit to be around her child away. That is the right of any parent.
2006-10-20 08:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel for her. She loves her child and doesn't want someone she doesn't know having contact with him. Please, for the sake of everyone involved, at least meet with her and reassure her that you will be good to her son without trying to take her place. She wants to make sure too that you are a permanent fixture in his father's life and that if her son becomes attached to you, you won't just be up and gone the next day. There's no law, but it will be good for everyone if you can have some peace with the situation.
2006-10-20 09:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is no law to say you must meet her but wouldn't you want to meet the woman you child's dad is seeing? it's a security thing look at how many children are hurt by step parents or boyfriends/girlfriends. i would meet her you never know you might get on well.
2006-10-20 11:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by angua1973 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took me 2 years to meet my now step children.Arguments and a lot of stress.But we worked it through and now we are are the best of friends.(step children and I).She is looking out for the boy but I read a magazine article once which made so much sense.That child will meet lots of new friends throughout his life and they will come and go and no person even his mother should ever try to stop that.Its my step sons birthday next weekend and we all have to get together,its life and she has to understand ,I have to aswell,and my step son dosn,t think anything of it .As long as we pay lol.
2006-10-20 11:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can only say, I would do the same thing. Think about it logically, look at all these women that have children and have a different boyfriend every week, which in turn gives that child a new Uncle every week, if you know what I am saying.
2006-10-20 11:22:23 · answer #7 · answered by bizzybee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have any respect for his child, you should meet her and ber very cordial with her. Extend your hand to her, look her in the eye and introduce yourself to her.
But in all honesty, you really shouldn't meet his son until you are in a long, serious relationship with him. You COULD be his rebound.
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2006-10-20 09:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have got to understand her point of view as well as your own..you may not have been anything to do with the split ..just take a step back and see both sides of the coin...is it such a bad request she is asking from you..why not meet her....this worlds a bad place and she just sounds like she want to be certain her child's safe...is that a bad thing...good luck with your problem
2006-10-20 08:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by michael b 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would meet up with her and try to become friends for the childrens sake, if they are the same age they could become good friends and its easier to have her on your side than against you. Good luck.
2006-10-20 11:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋