How would you feel if you found out that your daughter... or even son, but mainly daughter was having sex? Im 17 and i haven't had sex yet, mainly because im afraid what my parents would think and i have alot of respect for them..... but they never talk to me about sex or stuff like that, so i really don't know their opinion of it.
Also... I think they are just shy, and i am shy to ask them about those things.....
What do other moms (You) think about this?
2006-10-20 08:23:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
You sound like a wonderful daughter. Your parents must be very proud of you.
If you truly found that special person in your life and find yourself in a sexual situation, I would pray that you ready yourself and protect yourself. And that your desires are true to you. Not just to have sex.
Sounds like your parents may not be shy but, private about things like this. You also. That's good to a point. It is a private thing to most people. I'm sure that your parents are aware that the day will come when you will be sexually active.
As a mom, I would want to know and make sure that you are careful and knowing of the circumstances that could arise from sexual activity. (And, I'm pretty private about that stuff too.)
It's part of live. I'd say wait until you find the man who'll be your husband, but I know that more then likely is not going to happen. I'd just hope that you would be mature and well informed regarding all of they above. Hope I don't sound like a prude, I'm not. I'm a mom. Good luck.
2006-10-20 08:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Paige2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 18 yr old son, and I'm fine with it as long as he uses protection (and Ive told him this) and hes in a relationship with the girl. I think you should get on birth control before you even think about sex and make sure he uses protection as well to keep you from getting an STD or worse. If you do not feel comfortable talking to your parents about this, then call your local Health Department and see if you can make an appointment and get on birth control on your own. When you do its not a reason for you to have sex, I would suggest you wait until you are married, but if you dont just please be on Birth Control and use a condom!
2006-10-20 15:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by bbwg_hbic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know my mom was really disappointed with me when she found out I was having sex at 17. That was the most disappointing thing for me, to lose my moms respect. I think that you should respect your family and wait. Or at the very least talk to your parents or atleast your mom about it before you start. Hopefully if you talk to her about it she will understand and get you on birth control.
2006-10-20 15:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all KUDOS to you for not giving in to peer pressure and having sex. It takes discipline and strong determination. If you really want to talk about it, you might have to be the one to initiate the conversation. Try it with your mom, it always is better that way. My parents never had that talk with me either and I got pregnant really young. It is an important thing to talk with your parents about so that you guys can keep a really close relationship and not feel like there are "things we don't speak of."
2006-10-20 15:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by janeannpat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 17 year old daughter. She knows about sex because we have talked about it. If we didn't have the talk, I would hope that she would come to me and ask about it. Take it from me, your parents would rather you ask than come home in the family way. She is still a virgin because she chooses to be not because I want her to be. I told her that when she is ready, I will take her to get birt control. I don't want her to be a baby raising a baby.
2006-10-20 15:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 14 and I'm 43 - I know it's a different day and age now, and I talk to her about sex - I think she's more uncomfortable than I am -but I explained to her when I was her age, my mother didn't tell me a thing about boys, sex, my period. .and that she should feel relieved that she's got a down to earth mom she can talk to about things. I hope when that day comes she will talk to me, right now she tells me about her crushes. . but I tell her sex isn't anything to rush into - you really don't know what the hell you're doing when you're young anyway - - I wish I had waited, I really do, especially when I think back on who I slept with and that they really weren't deserving of it - save it for someone really really special.
2006-10-20 15:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by Cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's aweful that your parents don't talk to you about it..that is not only dangerous, it makes one go out and do it. Children who are open with their parents and talk about sex and discuss it are the ones who usually wait to have sex which is a good thing...
what do u want to know..i can help you ..i am a mother of 2 girls and i am 43 yrs old...email me...goddess632003@yahoo.com i will be very happy to answer any of your questions..and don't be embarresed.
2006-10-20 17:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a similar situation as you. My parents never talked about sex. I ended up pregnant at 17. My advice to you is don't be embarrassed. Your parents genuinely care about you and they will want to talk to you about this and they'll be gald you came to them. The best advice I can give you is when you do have sex use a condom.
2006-10-20 15:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by yummymummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to talk to your mom. I know that if my son came to me to talk about it I would give him the facts. I wouldn't just say no no no you can't. I no that would not be helping at all. You need to talk to someone if it isn't your mom. Don't just jump into it w/o talking to someone. And I know that this is a hard topic for you and your mom but im sorry to say you are going to have to get over it. You will be happy when you did.
Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-10-20 15:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by sweetsnickers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really hope my daughter would come to me, safety and knowledge is best when considering sex. Your parents should be proud of you for wanting their approval and knowledge about such an important decision.
2006-10-20 15:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by kehrlyfamily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋