Its not the fact that i will be hated or ridiculed its the fact that most people well not all girls they seem cool with you but its like your not a person anymore your "THAT GAY GUY". Its like people dont even see you for being you anymore everytime they see you your "That gay guy" you cant even touch a dude without him thinking you like him or you always have people stepping on egg shellls because youra "homo". I meen im not ashamed of being bi seual i like P***y and D**K cant help it but I just dont want people to just judge me by my label. And i dont want to put my friends through the torment i dont care about getting teased but i dont want to set my friends up for it. How do you guys feel whats some advice did you feel the same way when you came out. And do you think its totally wrong if i never come out the closet lol.
2006-10-20 08:18:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i know being judged by a label sucks but its the way of the the world ''unfortunately''.dont worry about the people who cant see past the label cause the arnt worth your time. i think its real nice of you to think about your friends and what would happen to them but remember this is about you first and foremost. in my experience of coming out my friends arnt really the one who get the crap for me being bi. but just as you said ,to the rest of the world i am '' that gay guy''. i think you should think about this more before comin out and then make a decicion.....good luck
2006-10-20 08:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by allen=[\m/] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that you have put your friends before yourself shows how good a person you are. i hate that it comes to this, maybe because i went to an all girls school we were much more open and accepting of this situation.
i would hate to tell you not to come out, but if you truly feel this strongly that your friends will be ridiculed and you do not want that to happen, do what you think is best.
never coming out of the closet could in the end be detrimental to yourself, it would be very hard to live a double life for a lifetime. for a short time it is hard, but for a lifetime i would think it impossible.
good luck with the problem, and as corny as it sounds be true to yourself, in the end you are the only one who will matter - friends come and go but you are always you.
2006-10-20 08:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jenessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with giving yourself time to grow up before you make final decisions on your sexuality. Be honest with yourself, but you don't really have to broadcast your sexuality just yet. Straight and gay people both learn about the importance of discretion...I mean, a straight person is treated as if they are messed up if they whore around all the time, and it hurts them in the long run. Same with gay or bi. Just use discretion and be careful, don't be so quick to label yourself yet.
2006-10-20 16:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mark L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I know is that coming out of the closet as anything others than straight is tough/difficult.
2015-03-04 00:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - tough call. I assume you're in high school still. If you're comfortable with yourself, I see no problem with waiting awhile to come out. Maybe when you're older, the people you associate with will be mature enough to judge you on your whole personality, not just your sexuality.
2006-10-20 08:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say wait until you are better able to deal with the negative opinions you are going to get AND you are no longer in a school...Teenagers are seldom mature enough about sexual issues as to be able to talk about them in an adult manner.
2006-10-20 08:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, wait till you are a bit older before telling all to friends. It's great that you are thinking of their feelings and later on, when you all are older, and you tell them they will respect you too.
2006-10-20 08:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋