I'm a 42 year old male, i have been on a dateing site and i have had a lady contact me, we e-mailed each other and i sent my mobile no: just to make contact easier, we seemed to be getting on ok, she said in a text that she was on the road alot, and asked what i do for a living? a Coach Driver i replied, opps!!!!, that was 8 hrs ago, so my Question is: Is it so important what you do for a living? after all she did see my photo's and my profile, but as soon as i mention what i do for a living bang, i feel like crap.
2006-10-20 08:08:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The career one chooses tells another much about them. It gives them an idea of what you enjoy. What your intellectual level is. What your economic level is. What your social level is. How hard you have worked. So on and so forth. There is nothing to be ashamed about. Believe in yourself. Different strokes for different folks. We need all people and all careers. A Doctor is not better than a bus driver. We could not get to work without the bus driver. We all have special talents. We all have self worth. To some people economic and social status is important. To others it is not important. The most important thing is to be who you are and not put on false fronts. If you are embarrassed at who you are or lie about who you are...then you need to work on some issues you have with yourself before you can have a good relationship with others. Hold your head high. Be proud of yourself. Be honest. If someone judges you or doesn't like you for you...better that you find out honestly and that they move on so you can find a person that is genuine and sincerely likes you for you!
2006-10-20 08:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that she is on the road a lot, surely you have something in common then. She may not like the idea of you being on the road, in case you turn up to wherever she is one time.
Move on, plenty more people on Internet dating.
ps. nothing wrong with being a coach driver, I went out with a Birmingham Bus Driver, and booooy did he have some stories to tell.
All the best.
2006-10-20 17:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by bizzybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do reallly care about what a person do for a living especially in cases where they want to establish long term committment, I guessed they would want to be financially stable before entering into serious relationship. Anyway, if you get rejected just because of your occupation, then at least you have an idea of what kind of person she is. Cheer up, there's lot of people at dating sites as much as there as fishes in the ocean, isn't it? Give yourself another try.
2006-10-20 15:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot a people are different sometimes, alot of women these days would like a man who can support financially and has a good head start at life maybe for the lady you got along with so well needs something like that in her life. Did she say anything after you told her your job? if not than ask her, if so than she's looking for something more. Don't worry you'll find someone who will want you for who you are.
2006-10-20 15:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by val_nativeg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do for a living does have a large effect on the way people look at you. It's how you support yourself and how you just appear personally. If she really likes you then she won't care what you do for a living, just as long as you have a job with some sort of an income and your not a lazy bum. Don't worry about it. Have confidence in yourself!
2006-10-20 15:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by C-Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunitely, some people are so superficial. And if she is that superficial, do you really want her anyway??? I'd hope not. I feel as long as you are self-sufficient, and save for yourself, then you are doing well. A girl, like the one you are describing, is just interested in having someone take care of her financially. She'd suck the life out of you and the $$ out of your bank account. Better you found out now before you invested any more time on her!
2006-10-20 15:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by baka_desho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be ashamed of what you do for a living. At least you have a job and believe it or not alot of women respect that fact. If she's acting weird about it well then you don't want her anyway because she doesn't like the whole you. Good luck sweetie you'll find someone.
2006-10-20 15:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st ... It's possible something has prevented her texting you back - even though it was 8 hours ago.
2nd - A genuine woman who liked a genuine man wouldnt worry what he did for a living, as long as it was legal.
3rd - You might feel like crap now but you are NOT crap. So try to get over it and keep positive.
2006-10-20 15:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I don't care if you're a ditch digger. Dating over 30 is nearly impossible. If you are a good man with a good job and are honest and decent, I don't care if you sweep the floor at the train station, you do what you do and be proud of it. If she has a problem with that, screw her.
There's plenty of single women out there over 30 who would appreciate an honsest, decent man.
Just don't forget to mention your BMW and you should be ok.
2006-10-20 15:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least you are honest, what do you do for living. Some men will lie after another. A girl will stay contact with you even if you a farmer or garbage man, if she likes you or attracted to you. So don't worry, there is someone for you out there. goodluck!
2006-10-20 15:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋