I've been married for about 2 years, and with him 5 altogether. We have been separated for 2 months now (I moved to another state.) We had so many problems like abuse. I know I am stupid but I still miss him. I was thinking about getting back together and saving my family, and he was just getting my hopes up. Once again he lied to me he was seeing someone else. Right now I am attending counceling and trying to concentrate more in my work. I asked him not to ever call me again. He still calls me (even do he has not called me in a few days). I just can't believe he played me like he did. How am I ever going to be able to trust someone? This is too long of a story to tell here. Why does he deny being with someone else? PLEASE HELP!!
2006-10-20 08:04:17 · 14 answers · asked by marla g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mr. Sunji,
The only idiot here is you. You don't understand how angry I am at him. I feel like I also hate him. You build a life with someone and you learn to trust them , and then BOOM! He changes completely. Do you understand how hurt I am. I am not some idiot that just lets a man walk over her. That is why I moved out and left the state. It is truly hard to forget someone when they are the first person you gave your heart and trust. Some people judge without realizing that they do not know what they are talking about. I am a very MAD AND PISSED OFF WOMEN THAT WANTED TO SAVE HER FAMILY!
2006-10-20 08:45:01 · update #1
You moved out
Husband lonely
Hot desperate chick available
Cheaper to keep working spouse away
Lie to spouse and sweet talk to her to avoid legal problems
You hang around holding on to false hope
Having the cake and eating too, how convenient.
Wise up! Act now
2006-10-20 08:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your right - how can you ever trust him again? You Cant! You shouldnt. This separation is still very new and not only are you apart from him but you moved also which makes it that much harder. Just give it time. Do not go back to him. If he was abusive in the past, he will be in the future. If he has cheated in the past and continues to do so now.. whos to say he will ever stop? Regarding him calling you - he will keep calling as long as you keep picking up... turn off the ringer so you cant answere, go out, occupy yourself so you arent sitting home thinking about the situation, him and his next phone call. Why dont you go out and find a new group of people to hang out with ... people who you dont know and can start fresh with. You will see that your life isnt dependent on him... you dont need him.
2006-10-20 08:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by !?!?! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you are doing the right thing by staying away from him, especially since there was abuse. Dont put up with his sh*t! He is still lieing to you so how much does he really care about his failing marriage? Sounds to me like hes moved on if hes seeing someone else. Now you should move on. Its going to hurt because it always does when you love someone, but you will be better off and in time you will be able to trust again.
2006-10-20 08:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by annette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He, is a lyer and a cheat. Do not, on any curcumstances get back with him. Even if he wins the lottery. Well, if he wins over a few million you can buy your own house then live separatly from him, lol.
He says that he went with another girl because he wants to feel important, and he wants to sound like you should fight for him because he's such a gem. Lies, obviously. Then, when that didnt work, he went back to pleading, and begging you to come back, by saying that he didnt have someone else, and now wants you to feel sorry for him thats he has no body and that he needs you. Now he's tryig to make you feel like a loving gem.
Well, it aint going to work. You should stick away from guys like that. DO NOT go back to him. Everyone feels a little guilty after divorce. They feel like theyv lost someone even though they dont love them too much, usually not at all. Find someone else, fill that gap! nd, search deep within their soul to find if they really are meant for you.
Good Luck with your New Life!
2006-10-20 08:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by -:-vInTaGe PaSsIon-:- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once with a compulsive liar. Being with him was the worst part of my life. You will get past it in time. Take some time for yourself and just have some fun. Forget about trying to make it work. You are so much better than that. You don't want your family to grow up with him as a role model. Get out of it while you can and make a fresh start for yourself. It will take time but trust me...do yourself a favor! Best wishes to you.
2006-10-20 08:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by Acid Burn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is just a piece of crap. He lies to you because he wants to have you as a backup in case it doesnt work out with the other woman. If you dont want to talk to him then dont answer the phone when he calls. You are doing the right thing by going to counseling. I hope you are able to save your marriage, it is important for children to have a father in the home, but not one that is going to act like he has been. Good luck to you.
2006-10-20 08:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he keeps walking all over you because you let him.
who cares WHY he lies? he does, and you should believe that you deserve better than that. however, until you do, all the whining in the world will not make your life better.
sorry if that's harsh, but sometimes people need a wake up call.
2006-10-20 08:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by thejanes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard sweety, but you've got to realize you are better off without him. Trust me, things will get better. He is no good. I've been through this, if you want to talk e-mail me...LoraBeth1000@yahoo.com
2006-10-20 08:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by Ladybeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maria am so sorry this guy put you thru all of this girl take care of yourself and yes stay away from him move on keep yourself busy let guys prove it to you first before you start trusting them
2006-10-20 10:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by babyg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he’s a lying cheat. He’s selfish and only thinks of himself. He will say whatever he needs to say to get what he wants. You keep taking him back.
2006-10-20 08:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋