I am so in love with him but I know it is not good for me to continue this relationship. Our finances are involved and I want a clean slate if I end the relationship...should she know? We started a business together and though he is not on the paperwork we are seriously financially entangled. Should I just walk away -- he loves me or does he? I am so confused -- but the comments to my first question really have me thinking about me for once.
2006-10-20 08:04:04 · 16 answers · asked by Lisa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm going to skip all the high-horsed bashing of morals or lack thereof and say this;
Don't tell the wife (yet). Think about it, you have *leverage*, chicadee. Get your finances extricated from his, and if he tries to **** you over, threaten to tell the wife. Once you have settled all your finances into your own, independent account, I *do* suggest just walking away and leaving that big sludge-o-mess that is that man's life behind. Unfortunately, my bullshit sense is tingling, and this woman's probably an idiot, so even if you did tell her, she'd most likely put all the blame on you and continue to exalt her craptastic husband like a bobble-headed dolt.
One last note: life is full of lessons, try to learn from this one, ne?
2006-10-20 08:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by Leena Rosen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you should of never went for a married man in the first place. You are in such a mess. You have probably heard this before but once a cheater always a cheater. He would of probably got bored with you and found someone else as well. Get rid of him hire an attorney because there is probably going to be a fight over the business. It would only cause trouble to tell his wife. You might be doing it for the wrong reasons. You might just want him for yourself and he will turn around and do the same thing to you. Learn from this experience start having fun living life and go out with single men.
2006-10-20 15:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should walk away but don't walk away from your business !! Tell him you want too end this affair, and want him out of the business. You say you both started this business together, well thats tough for him, I'm sure, but you need too think about YOU now..He can take care of himself, and his family. It's going too be hard on you too break off this relationship, but time will heal your heartache.
Don't tell his wife, It won't really make you feel any better doing that. His wife will eventually catch on too what he's been doing, but don't be the one too let her know.
Good luck and stay strong...
2006-10-20 17:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't told the wife all this time then dont act childish and do it now. Just because the affair is ending doesn't mean you have to go and ruin others lives more. Just do what you need to do to sever ties and walk away. With all that involved she might find out on her own anyway.
2006-10-20 15:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sucks to be in that position, but you are right to think of ending it. don't get the wife involved, even though it is tempting even "to tell her the truth" or "for her own good." really, you just need to get away from all of it, and have no more drama with either of them. this is about you, not her, not him.
hopefully you can end it calmly, and talk about finances with him. but stay strong! you need this break for youself. and don't let him take advantage of you financially. even good people can get nasty when a breakup is involved.
good luck, and good for you for finally doing it!
2006-10-20 15:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by jumpoutjane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he loved you he wouldn't still be married. As for telling his wife, it's not YOU who should be telling her it is her husband, and since it involves HIS finances and he is MARRIED she has every right to know because if one day he dies she will be entitled to any/all of his assets and she will THEN find out. I suggest you tell this guy to come clean with his wife then walk away, it's not love he feels for you.
2006-10-21 03:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to end the affair then end it. there is no reason to hurt his wife. Talk about the finances and decide what to do about that. If he tries to continue the affair I would then tell him that if he didnt stop I would tell his wife. You deserve someone who is not going to make you second to anybody
2006-10-20 17:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had your head stuck up your butt for years did you say?
Your not a nice person to be doing all of this with a married man.
Just cause you want out, you think it's only fair now to hurt the wife? Really nice of you!!!
Get your share of what is yours, and walk away. You don't have to cause any more pain, do you?
Your nasty!
2006-10-20 15:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LMAO
You should have know better then to get tangled at work. Never mix business with pleasure. Guess you will have to work out the finances then tell him you are done with the affair. Telling his wife is an option. IMO I would tell her but it is your fault too not just his.
2006-10-20 15:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever at sexual relations with someone other than your spouse then yes,you should inform them if you at all in any way care for them. The out side person could have some form of virus or disease that could later cause life threatening conditions in you or your spouse.
Come clean & see if you are both CLEAN!
2006-10-20 17:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by staxi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋