To spank a girl hard who 12 year old if she mess up bad??? That happen 2 me 2 times since school start i got in trouble an a spanking sore from my mother. My 2 older sisters say i deserve it but my friends not think so except one. when i be to old get punish that way? I dont get abuse or anything like that but spankings HURT!
2006-10-20 07:54:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Are you Asian like your name and avatar? If you are, then spanking is an Asian tradition that Americans dont really understand. In Asian culture, you are always young enough to get spanked until you can move out/get married. It is not an acceptable thing in America, though. Some might consider it abuse. But it's just a way of discipline, it's not like they're spanking you for no reason. I really dont know how to help you on this one. You could try to talk to your parents and figure out what exactly you did wrong and maybe tell them how much it hurts you on the inside and the outside. But if this doesnt work...get counseling. Oh god, I cant believe I just typed that, but yes. Talk to somebody about how bad you feel and mb they can discuss it w/ ur parents. But just remember that they are just doing what they think is best for you. Stay out of trouble and mb it will stop. However, if they are spanking you for something that isnt your fault or for no reason at all, then you should really get sum1 to convince them to stop!
2006-10-20 17:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by fliptastic 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if it hurts then you should be learning your lesson. Just because your friends aren't getting spankings dont mean that you shouldn't. All parents are different. Maybe you should think about what will happen to you for acting up or being bad before you do it. I know after I got a few spankings when I was your age I quit doing bad things.
2006-10-20 15:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry I can't answer your question, because I don't believe in spanking a child of ANY age. Your parents were obviously raised differently than I was, and if I were you, I'd really try to stay out of trouble if you'd like to avoid the spankings.
2006-10-20 14:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by vodka7tall 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Spankings ARE abuse. Spaniking lightly isn't. And psankings are for 1-4 years olds not for a grown girl like you. I would suggest talking to your mom and if she won't listen then tell ehr you will call the police and if she still continues then call the police on her.
2006-10-20 19:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by SunniGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure they hurt, and since you know that, perhaps you might do all you can to prevent getting them in the future. It's too late to train your mother not to spank. She just needs a reason not to. Be good and correct in all you do and she'll have no reason to spank you.
2006-10-20 15:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by john h 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hats off to your parents. And of course your friends aren't going to think you need a spanking....they're young and immature like yourself. At your age, you think you're grown, while at the same time you still need your parents for everything. If you don't want a spanking, don't do anything to get spanked. Simple as that.
2006-10-20 14:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Show this to your mom and the site below. She needs to get educated and stop spanking because it is a form of abuse.
Some children remember spanking messages more than nurturing ones. They will remember and be most influenced by the 1 hit than the 100 hugs. Hitting just devalues a child. Children need to predict the outcome in order to behave good in the future. Parents should never spank because using fear and pain is the wrong way to go about it.
Spanking is a form of violence that teaches children that inflicting fear and pain on others is a way to control their behavior. Parents who spank are out of control and are not disciplined parents. It just teaches children how to hit, how to be sneaky, how to fear, how to be ashamed and how to take anger out on others. All degrees of spanking- light, moderate, occasional, rarely, always- give children the wrong kind of attention. You want your child to follow rules because they are right and good, not to avoid punishment because they are scared and become sneaky. When parents spank, they stop their children at the lowest level of moral development. So all the idiots that recommend to spank are eroding their childs ability to be empathetic. When you react with anger to childrens' behavior, we teach them to act without considering another persons' feelings-another consequence we need to avoid. Then when your child doesn't have empathy, it is impossible for them to learn to share, play well with others, avoid angry and violent actions, and take responsibility for their actions. I have children and am studying early childhood development in college. I am against spanking. Children of non-spanking parents tend to be easy to manage and well-behaved because these parents set clear standards for what is expected, provide lots of love and affection, explain things to the child, and recognize and reward good behavior. Non-spanking parents also pay more attention to their children’s behavior, both good and bad, than parents who spank do.
2006-10-20 15:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by sally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking=bullying. Your child is not cattle to be whipped into shape. If you can't even get your point across without getting physical and acting like a 2-year-old, then who is REALLY the child here? And, to answer your question, no, it's not fair. Your parents need to talk to you, not treat you like the family dog.
2006-10-20 14:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
At your age, I would have rather been spanked then grounded for two weeks etc. Use your judgement and you will understand what is right and what is wrong. Just use your head and make good choices.
2006-10-20 15:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok yeah it hurts but quit complaining honestly my mom stopped spanking me now i get grounded and get stuff taken away from me id rather have the spankings honesty your lucky
2006-10-23 15:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by bitter sweet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋