I tried to reply to your email..but it wouldn't let me. Thanks for caring. You are correct in all you said, but he won't consider the option you suggested. He said he doesn't believe in it. He comes from a cold and distant mother...and seems to think that all things should be handled in an almost military way.
......Thanks for caring!
2006-10-20 07:44:12 · 6 answers · asked by Me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely.
I just hate to see good people get hurt, and I hated some of the answers most people had given you on some of your questions, that it was ok and it was normal, that boys will be boys.
In fact I think that is very shallow of an answer, and while boys will be boys, men need to be men. Maybe his perception of being a "man" is being cold and distant, but I don't think it is helping your relationship at all and it needs to change.
Marriage takes a lot of work, many times not doing everything you want to do, but rather giving some of your ways up for the needs of your spouse. You do this well, as I believe you love him. You adapt to his life choices. However, you're not getting anything back. It will only make you bitter, as human beings are not God, we all have conditional love. It can only last so long if not nurtured.
If going to a professional will not happen, you need to find a way to be alone with him, where he can't escape and talk to him.
Remember one of the greatest secrets to coaching a football team is to tell them once, tell them again, make them repeat it, then as they all say they got it, remind them again.
What I am trying to say is that, it may take more than just one time of trying to tell him your feelings. It won't be easy, but just like anything else in life, it must be done. I hope it helps and I hope you find that he will listen and will respect you, and above all find that he really does love you.
Good luck, and best of wishes.
2006-10-20 07:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by stranger2ooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 pts
2006-10-20 07:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just unbreakable. But they should somehow adjust to others needs - if they want to be happy with them.
2006-10-20 07:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever left skid marks on your thong?
2006-10-20 07:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have just IMed him.
2006-10-20 07:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Paka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
2006-10-20 07:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋