My daughter's boyfriend of 2+ years has requested that we meet for lunch. He will be asking for my approval to "move to the next step". They are both 25, college grads, etc.
2006-10-20 07:39:46 · 15 answers · asked by Future father-in-law 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you love my daughter? Can you support her. Will you be loyal? Do you have faith in God? Get to know his family too. By knowing the family, you will see a bigger picture of him. best of happpiness to all.
2006-10-20 07:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
By "moving to the next step" do you mean engagement, living together, or both?
Anyway, ask him what are his views on having kids? Family budgeting. Who should be working? Who should stay at home with kids? Who's money is who's in the marriage? How much debt should they carry? What are they going to invest in 1st. Car, boat, house, time share? Will he want to save money in a bank account, or does he think that a credit limit is equal to money in the bank. Does he like to gamble, drink, fool around? Is he deeply religious, & does your little girl have to convert? When there's kids, will he take an equal role in the upbringing, & day to day care of them, or is he going to be calling from the couch with a beer in his hand every time the kids get so loud they drown out the TV?
Will he treat your daughter as an equal partner in the relationship even if he's the primary breadwinner? Or will he make important decisions surrounding his job, & income that could seriously impact your daughter without her knowledge or input.
If he ceases to be handsome, will he at least be handy?
Some of these suggestions may be a little intrusive, so as a Dad I would be taking some of those to my daughter, & making sure that she works through some of those questions with her guy herself, before the "move to the next step"
Cheers!
2006-10-20 08:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the kid credit for asking. If your daughter has been with him for 2+ years and he feels comfortable enough to talk to you about the next step, what can you ask that you don't already know?!?! Enjoy your lunch with your future son-in-law. Spend the time telling embarrassing stories about your daughter when she was younger (only the cute ones, dad) And get some good Intel from the son-in-law to use in your speech at the wedding. Good luck and Congrats... as my dad said, "One step closer to grand-kids!!!"
2006-10-20 07:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by baby_girl_8881 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, good thing that he cares to ask. That's 5 points for him.
You might want to make sure he knows what a commitment is...if he knows that and truly loves and is loyal to your daughter, than things will be fine.
Other than that, ask what you feel you want to know. If there is nothing, then approve and don't worry too much about it. Conversation will flow naturally during lunch anyways.
Best of hopes to you!
2006-10-20 07:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Chanel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Think of it as two old friends getting together to bring each other up to date. This isnt a job interview so ex nay the questions, besides there are no set questions that qualify a future son in law. Besides its your daughter that has to put up with him. Just be glad that youre having this get together,my son in law didnt before they got married and I was told that was old fashioned and doesnt happen anymore. Just show interest in him as it will earn you brownie points with your daughter
2006-10-20 07:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My mother in law asked me only one question - she asked me just to love her son. It was simply beautiful. :) We've been together for 3 years now, married 1 year. His mom passed away this year, the beginning of our anniversary month after a 6 month battle with two kinds of cancer. It was so sad watching her body crumble...I know a lot of women can't stand their mother in laws - but I love mine and always will.
2006-10-20 07:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What haven't you talked about in two years? Ask him questions about what his future plans are for himself and your daughter; does he plan to work, provide a home for her, children, etc. Whatever you want to know that's going to involve your daughter, you ask him.
2006-10-20 08:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him whatever you want to know about him. He must be a good boy to be comming up to you to ask for your apporval and graduate too that is good too. Do ask important questions that you yourself would want to know. Jobs what does he plan to do with his life now that he is out of college besides marrying your daughter and things. DO say yes that he may marry your daughter. I mean if she says yes that their is nothing you can do about it.
2006-10-20 07:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask if you can see him naked to make sure he has the equipment it takes to satisfy your daughter. Let him know she dated the basketball team in high school (mostly black) and expects a lot of hard use. Is he up to the challenge?
2006-10-20 08:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mark S 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
ask him spending habits thoughts on children and how he is planning to support your daughter ask random questions to keep him from coming up with stock answers
2006-10-20 07:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Natalia's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will you love and protect her
2017-02-24 03:34:25 · answer #11 · answered by liz moffatt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋