Why are we always saying [this is non of my business]?

Question

I am surprised why we just ignore those around,We are caring about ourselves alone and we are not tring to give any time for others

Answer 1

Some things are legitimately none of my business -- who the neighbor is sleeping with besides her husband; how much money my friend is making; what religion someone believes in or the political party they belong to, etc.

And then there are things like a neighbor abusing their child; an animal being left outside to suffer without food, water, or shelter; someone without a home or money to feed themselves; an older person being physically or mentally abused by their so-called 'caregiver.'

Are those things my business? Damn straight, they are. Will I get involved? Damn straight, I will.

Answer 2

It isn't that we care so much about ourselves as we have very busy lives. With family, friends, and work. There is little time left for something else. Depending on the situation, most people just don't want to get involved with something when they don't know the person. I know that I work 60 hours a week, I have two kids that are in sports and doing things with friends. My husband like to go to car shows or we do family things. When I do get to see friends it could be for dinner or a movie. I don't have time to make other peoples problems a priority. Now if I see someone being abused or something of the such, yes I will take interest and do what I can to help. There are people that do help others and are not self-centered as you put it. But for me personally, my family comes first, then friends, and the rest of the world can fall into line somewhere after that.

Answer 3

it goes a little farther than that, and i don't think it has anything to do with being selfish...

ex.
if my boyfriend and his mother are in an argument about what state he should live in, and they ask for my opinion; my response would be: "this is none of my business." for many reasons,

1. i am not, nor do i want to be, responsible for selecting the state that my boyfriend moves to, that is entirely up to him.
2. ultimately, the instinctive response would be to side with my boyfriend; however, it doesn't help my relationship with his mother.
3. if i side with his mother, he will resent me.
4. if i give a response that will ultimately benefit me, that would not only be selfish, but also cause resentment from him and his mother.
5. he is an adult and is able to make his own decisions.

so, of course, it is not my business.

however, if it were a different situation, such as:

i see a man beating a child, of course i would intervene because i cannot bring myself to turn away when someone is in harms way.

so, in this situation, it would be my business and i would not say, "this is not my business."

your question is kind of vague, by the way...

Answer 4

I think the problem is that people just have too much going on. I know that sounds silly. There are people that don't even see or talk to their relatives on a regular basis.

Both parents in most familes work every day. They have children, house, chores, etc. seven days a week. They don't have time for anything else. I am not saying it is right, I am saying it is the way it is. They have enough problems of their own to contend with.......They are too tired to deal with anything else.

Answer 5

What "that" actually means, is when someone is telling you something that "really" isn't anyone's business! It's not when someone "should" care, but "doesn't". I personally care about a lot of people, and listen to them very well, just to allow them to unload their feelings. But when someone is simply telling me something that "is" none of my business, I tell them that also. However, there are people who say that because they feel uncomfortable, and don't know what "else" to say to that
person. Did that answer your question?

Answer 6

I think I know what you mean. What makes me angry, for example, is when people are all in their neighbor's business and go around eavsdropping, but if a kid next door is being abused or something, all of a sudden, it's "Not my business". We're all supposed to look out for each other, you know?

Answer 7

I see what you mean but there is such a thing as minding your own business. It takes wisdom to know the difference between indifference, caring, and wisdom! Good journey.

Answer 8

there is a reason for this attitude.
We have experienced in our individual past, that when we have gotten involved and tried to help someone we inevitably get pulled in deeper than we intended to be at the outset.this causing any number of unwanted consequences for us(me).
people can react in the worst way when they perceive you messing in their business....even when you are trying to help...

Answer 9

I only get involved when it involves a friend as then it is part of my business... as for strangers, always worried about getting sued

Answer 10

We have a fear of meddling in other peoples problems..being sued; giving bad advise; losing friendship; and this could go on and on.