Been friends with him for almost a year and are pretty close, but recently-about a month now-when he mentions girls to me (some love interests) he keeps implying that im jealous in a joky way. Sometimes he implies but other times he's direct.
Eg. he said to me "hypothetically, what would you do or say if i told u i have a g/f?" and i replied "i wouldnt do or say anything, but id be curious to know who she is"
and then he replied "yeah, and then after that you'd probably hunt her down and tell her to stay away from 'my (***)' "
stuff like that
and he keeps mentioning girls to me, even though i know that he hasnt got a g/f but he claims to fancy this girl at his uni
Some say that he tries to make me jealous and play with my mind, whereas others say that he just wants to joke and chat about these girls he is interested in
If i talk to him about it, im worried that either i'll embarass HIM or MYSELF!
I dont know what to think or do - any advice?
2006-10-20 07:29:55 · 12 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh, and he doesnt talk about girls ALL the time but often enough, and when he does, he tends to say stuff like that.
I posted this earlier in the day and got some good results, but id like more answers so that i can make up my mind what to do! Thanks
2006-10-20 07:30:53 · update #1
dear oh dear ...why not ask your school chums
2006-10-20 07:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are several possibilities on WHY he does that:
1) He's got a crush on you and is trying to see if you feel the same by attempting to draw your emotions out of you
2)He's genuinely interested in girls and stuff and, as a mate, has fun talking to you about them,
3)He's trying to prove something to you, or possibly to himself through you
4)He's a simple joker
There are more, but right now these are the only i can think of.
Now, if it's
1) Then you should throw the ball back at him. Start talking about guys you like, and if you don't like any guys, conjure them up darling! :D No, seriously, just drop heavy hints on his toes, flirt outrageously with other guys, pretend you're lesbian (only joking!), or, best of solutions in my opinion, come right out with it and tell him: "mate, if you want whether i've got a crush on you--tell it right out--no need now that i come to think of it: i like you as a friend, but you're honestly too much of a womanizer for my taste..." or something like that. If COULD be potentially embarassing, but if he's a real friend, you'll just both laugh it off.
2)Listen to him and go: "mmmh, yeah," "NO WAY?!" "you did? Sheesh..." etc etc Just show him that you understand, act as another guy probably would, show admiration and sympathy, drop him hints etc, but without being to patronizing
3)Depends on what he's trying to prove. Do you ever joke about him being hopelessly unattractive, or such? because then, he mgiht be trying to, er, DISCREETLY prove to you that he IS lethally attractive. Otherwise, i honestly don't have a clue. ask another mate, but a MALE mate, he might be able to help you...:D
4)Joke back, or make him understand you don't really like this kind of joking (if you don't, of course) but if it doesn't bother you, then don't worry your head about it.
I'd need a bit more details to help you further, but i still hope this will help you make a decision. I'm also dying out there because i wish i could know how it's going to end...:D
Take care, and, most important: GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-20 15:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by Off-with-their-heads! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably interested in you ,My advice to you would be, If you are not interested in him that way, to number one... cut down the time that you are seeing him, you should probably say when he makes those remarks, well I hope you find someone really nice because you are a good person, I'm not attracted to you that way, but when I do find someone, I hope he is as nice as you as you are a good friend, but that is all we will ever be, make that perfectly straight ,and tell him that you would be happy for him if he finds the "right" girl.
2006-10-20 15:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by bluelady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this guy likes you. I have a bunch of guy friends who are like that, some of them do it because they want to talk about how they are feeling, and sometimes they do it because they have a crush on me. Usually, if they have a crush on me, they would get really close (perhaps too close) and flirt with me. Then they ask me out, whenever I turn them down, they stop talking to me about their feelings. But, really I have no clue about how this guy feels about you. If you really want to know, try asking him if he does like you the next time he brings girls up.
2006-10-20 15:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this will get him to shut up...start talking about the kind of guys you like and have all the qualities be the oppositte from his. start talking about guys you like. just throw out some obvious hints or just come out and tell him you dont like him that way. if he doesnt get the hint, that means hes only being friends with you to try and "get some". its sad but thats the way some guys work. or just tell him your a lesbian...wait...nevermind that wont work. keep it real!
2006-10-20 14:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Dr Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight that you hope both of u will remain as buddy for the rest of your life. And also tell him the type of guy u looking... for the crush you are having.
You cannot force anyone NOT to like you but you can tell him u like him in another way. :D cheer!
2006-10-20 14:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by Eddy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date a guy.
Nothing serious, just find a cute guy that's friendly, ask him if he wants to hang out... then go do it. You don't owe the new guy anything, just hang out at a coffee shop.
That'll learn your stupid friend something fierce.
2006-10-20 14:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by Erad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be straight with him it will save a lot of problems in the future!!
Good LUCK....
2006-10-20 17:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by HIMSELF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to tell him that you dont like him in that way and make sure its clear but reassure him that you can still be freinds
2006-10-20 15:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really are 15 years old, aren't you?
2006-10-20 18:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
date somebody else and sewe what his recation is. maybe he is just mad into you and wishes he could have you aswell.
2006-10-20 14:53:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋