My boyfriend has been working at the Hospital for over 14months and has just had a major verbal reprimand for something quite trivial. He says he wants to leave the job..do you think he wants to leave because he wants to or just to stick to fingers up to the hospital management. Do I make him think about it more?
2006-10-20 07:29:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Everyone gets into trouble at work it and this will soon blow over. I can see where he's coming from as he is probably very angry. Tell him to ride it out and if he feels the same in a few months time then think about getting another job. However, tell him not to quit unless he has another job to go to otherwise he won't have any job seekers allowance! Good luck Chick.
2006-10-20 19:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being harshly reprimanded can make anyone want to quit their job. So it is logical for your boyfriend to feel this way. However, if this is the only negative thing that has happened over the course of his employment at the hospital then he should try to get past it.
If his mistake was indeed "trivial", then, his manager over reacted, but, he shouldn't counter by over reacting and quitting. He should accept responsibility for making the mistake and try not to make the same mistake again. Also, there could be some underlying reason why his manager reacted the way he did and the reason may not have anything to do with your boyfriend.
Your boyfriend should try to not take anything this manager or his co-workers say personally. Quitting a job over one negative occurrence is short-sighted. He needs to look at the bigger picture. For example, getting a new job can take a while and will he be able to find a job that is just as good or better than what he has now.
There will always be people at work we don't like and who annoy us. There will always be some kind of conflict among groups of people. We can't run everytime someone upsets us or treats us in ways we don't like. What we can do is learn how to handle the conflict in a mature adult way and to not take the actions of others to heart.
2006-10-20 08:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by knt1229 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's trying to annoy management by quitting, that'll work for about 15 minutes. Then he'll be out of a job, and they'll have someone else in there working. Are you sure the reprimand was really about something trivial? And to whom? Perhaps to the management it was important! What he sees as trivial isn't necessarily! I would suggest he think about it, and about how he'll be paying his bills if he quits before he finds another job. My husband spent a year or so saying his manager hated him and he hated the manager...then he got sick. The manager asked about him at least once a week, sent him a card, sent him flowers in the hospital, and held his job for him for almost three months (which they didn't have to do!). Now he and the manager are friends, but he had to be shown that his image of things wasn't always the right one. The manager liked him all along, I knew that, but he wouldn't believe me.
2006-10-20 07:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's understandable he's upset but if it really was trivial maybe he should try to live it down, unless he's getting harassed on a regular basis. Jobs aren't easy to come by these days. If he can prove by his actions that it was error on their part it's much better than just leaving in a huff which would make the critics feel vindicated. Ask him to give it some time, he'd have to work out a notice anyway, so maybe he could give it that 2 weeks or month or whatever, and then see how he feels.
2006-10-20 07:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by anna 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
see this is quite tricky as your partner might just want leave but because of the disciplinary action taken i think the best thing he could do is stick it out it probably had been blown out of proportion
i have been reprimanded over something totally rediculous at work am still there and i dont really get along with my managers but i dont let it affect my work it will not be there loss if you go they can replace you just rise above it and show them that your not affected.
mind you if your partner is that concerned contact the union if you have one explain to them and then if anything arises in the future your partner will have some backing and the Hospital will get done for victimisation
hope this helps ......sorry for the novel
2006-10-20 07:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If we all quit are jobs because of a telling off ,the unemployment figures would be into outer space. We,ve all been there you know, i,ve had telling off,s when i could have very happily killed the person who did it, i had to go on sick leave because of it. Lucky for all concerned i got over it, by leaving ,the butt face that gave me the hump would have won, well he has not i,m still there and feel stronger in myself. Buttface is more " friendly " towards me now. Thing is if you leave only for that reason, you will suffer, no job = no money. You will do better to stay at least untill you have another job to go to.
2006-10-20 23:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he did that was so bad to get such a major reprimand you would not normally get this treatment unless you did something really bad is he in the union? as they would look into it for him.Or maybe its just he wants a career change that's his way of doing it,depending on his answers think about it first if its a good job,as you cant leave just because you were told off.If its bullying in the work place and he can prove it they are Not aloud to do this under the Human Rights Act.
2006-10-20 19:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Carol B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The initial reaction to a reprimand is to get away from the source. Give him a few days to cool down. If he does leave, he has to think about a reference and if he would be happy to do the same kind of work. Good on you for caring so much
2006-10-20 07:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your boyfriend needs a time out - perhaps a couple of days or even a week away from that environment to put everything into perspective. If he really thinks that it is a trivial thing and the reprimand was totally unnecessary, then perhaps he should go over the grievance procedure - he may realise that he was in the right / wrong and make his decision about what to do from there...at the end of the day a job is just that - a job. we spend most of our adulthood in employment and so if the environment isn't right, then it impacts on the rest of our lives...i think a couple of days away may give him a chance to think about it objectively
2006-10-20 07:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, who would suffer the most - him or the hospital? Reprimands are not uncommon on any job. He needs to adapt a new attitude. This is MY JOB I earned it and I will not leave it until 1) I find something better or 2) until I decide to..not you! Then shake it off-and keep working!!
2006-10-20 07:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by muffin 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋