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As of now I still in love to my best friend… I informed him about my feelings but he disappointed me to have a relationship with him instead he advised me to read Quran I followed to his advised but I failed to improved myself. I can control it but what I need is to kill my desire 100%. Now, I’m so depressed, I really love my friend so much… What I will do to revert this feeling into a friend or brother in Islam only without any desire? But why I like him only, I have no interest to any other man except him. Sometimes I was imagining that he was beside me on my bed embracing and making love. (Sorry for my language just to make it clear
what is inside my heart). I really ashamed to Allah(swt) for what had happened to me. Sometimes I was thinking, why I suddenly became like this! I’m not like this before! This is my first experience to in love with my same sex. I hope this is my first and last experienced to in love with someone like him.
2006-10-20 07:22:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your sexual orientation is not something you consciously chose. It is something you were born with, just the same way some people are born with dark skin, and others with light skin. I think that, if you did not experience these feelings before, it is because you were trying to ignore them and so "didn't feel them". This does not mean you suddenly changed one day, just that you have finally learned something important about yourself. Allah is known as the Most Merciful, is He not? I believe that a Just and Merciful God will not condemn you for simply being the way you were born. It is the fear and prejudice of human beings that label homosexuality "wrong" or "a sin". Homosexuality is not a disease, and therefore has no "cure". I am sorry for the pain you must be going through. You will have to find a way, with God's help, to make peace between your religious beliefs and your true self, and how you do that is going to be your own personal choice.
2006-10-20 08:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by explorationredwing 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If having romantic feelings towards a member of the same sex is something that is against your beliefs, particularly if the beliefs relate to your religion, the best thing to do is likely pray/meditate for the strength to grow past your feelings. I am not Islamic, so I cannot offer specific answers as to how this relates to Islam.
You have to do for yourself what will make you happy. If you are a member of a religion that this goes against their beliefs, and you wish to be a devout member of this religion, the answer is fairly clear here. If this is more important than your religion, then the answer should also be clear.
I am not speaking against or for homosexuality. I'm merely suggesting solutions based upon you bringing up Allah & the Quran - this obviously is something you closely link with your religion and belief systems. You have to do what you believe to be right.
2006-10-20 07:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by JB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help your sexual desires. You can put them out of your mind and never allow them to come up again. I mean it is hard if you really love someone to just forget about your feelings but it is possible.
2006-10-20 07:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by softball_chic35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some mental help and some spiritual help. You have a sickness of the mind or of the soul.
2006-10-20 07:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Exodus International helps Christians fight their homosexual feelings. You can sign up for a newsletter, or write to them.
2006-10-20 07:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't change who you are no matter what your religion may be. Being gay is not a disease that you can cure.
2006-10-20 07:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jen G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get a sex change operation.
2006-10-20 07:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by enord 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you refer to `homosexual' . Stop hagging with **** friends, **** porn , **** spa, **** massage...etc and divert your attention towards career, hobby or something more constructive.
2006-10-20 07:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bright 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what is a "hemosexual"?
2006-10-20 07:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋