Ok well it's like this. I am married and had a very bad marriage with him. He wants to work things out saying he's changed. Which he has I can tell that about him. He used to be a drunk. Now he hardly ever drinks. He is showing me more respect than I ever got before. But here is the other part to it we been seperated for 2 years. He's in the military so which means if i was to get back together with him i would have to move if things were to work out.
My current life style right now I am dating a wonderful guy, he's always showed me the respect that I needed and wanted. He is great couldnt ask for better.
I am confused on what to do. I told my ex that I have someone great that treats me great and that if something was to ever happen with the current guy i am with i would probably think about going back to him. The problem is i love both of them. we have each shared special memories with each other. any advice??
2006-10-20 07:19:01 · 7 answers · asked by SouthernGal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
also i know what your probably thinking stay with the guy your with now... but this has me so confused that its not funny. ya know. also my husband and i have no kids together.
2006-10-20 07:20:38 · update #1
ok 1. you are married?? why the boyfriend??? 2. your husband is a drunk?? But hardly drinks now??? If you wanted to work out your marriage with this guy in the military yes you would probably have to move around, that is the military. If you don't think that will work GET A DIVORCE then date your boyfriend!!
2006-10-20 07:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by junebug_jewel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Make a list of pros and cons about both guys. If you're still unsure after that, then just go with the flow of it all. Apparently he used to be a drunk. How do you know, for sure, that he has changed? He could just be playing good guy to get u back. I'm not saying that that's true, just try to keep all possibilities open.
2006-10-20 07:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by casper??!! :P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u should do is talk to ur about working things out, if u think in ur heart that he has change then be with him. current guy if he make u feel good about ur self and u dont have to worry about him then i would stay with the current guy that ur with. what if u get back with ur ex and then after a while he goes back to his drinking again. think about it and go with the one who will treat u good, make u happy. good luck
2006-10-20 07:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If dude your with now has no problem with your children keep him. Your ex had his chance and there is no sorry for what his drinking did to you and your family just remember how hard it was after you two split up. He is your ex for more than one reason. Or you can just pick who is the cutest and wish for the best of luck.
2006-10-20 07:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Harbor R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that at this time you should with the guy you are with...Tell your ex that you need the time to find out some things. You don't have to tell him what those things are,,,but if has any sense he will know that it is him and what his problems used to be and if he has gooten everytning fixed up in his life.
2006-10-20 07:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thank God you have not brought kids into this. You are just going to have to make a choice. Did you ever think about God having a plan for your life, maybe you could pray about it. Possibly neither one are for you. Just don't bring kids into any of it, please.
2006-10-20 07:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to follow your heart. and by all means do what your heart tells you
2006-10-20 07:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋