My question is , that I am running out of patience. I really want him to ask me to marry him. I don't want to push the issue, but I am getting tired of waiting. In my heart he is the man for me. I believe he loves me. I have always dreamend of having the man I love ask me to marry him, so I don't want to ask him. I have been down lately, and he keeps asking me what's wrong. I tell him nothing, but really I am depressed because he hasnt't asked me to marry him yet. How long should I wait? Should I push the issue, or just wait and see what happens. I am 28 and don't want to wait much longer
2006-10-20 07:10:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You said thae you "think" that he loves you.
Have he said that he loves you?
Have you met his parents yet?
After 2-3 years of dating is normally when a honest responsible adult proposes. So don't get antsy and desperate yet. Christmas is comming up, so is Valentines day... wait and see if he is waiting for a special day to surprise you.
After the big holidays nas you 2 year anniversary you can ask him calmly (NO TEARS AND GUILT TRIPS) where your relationship is heading. Tell him that you are ready for the next step and would like to know if that is an options for the two of you and that it is on his near future plans. YOu can say it without saying it and still be clear about what you want.
Holding a grudge without him knowing what's going on, crying with no explanation, and pushing the issue is going to spook him away. If you look needy and desperate it's going to have the opposite effect.
Good luck
2006-10-20 07:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky guy. All the milk without buying the cow. I will be teaching my children to not live together until a wedding date has been set. Then they can use that engagement period living together to watch for any unacceptable behaviors to declare themselves.
Since you've already given the good away your game plan should be a little different. It's time to tell him why you are unhappy. He will either ask you to marry him or he will avoid it. You'll have your answer. If he asks you to marry him during your conversation, you'll need to tell him that he'll have to take some time to figure out how to ask you in a romantic memorable way.
I think premarital sex is important, but I wish people wouldn't move in together until they've set a wedding date.
2006-10-20 14:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the two of you talked about getting married? If so, then you should know whether or not he is planning to ask you anytime soon. If you haven't i suggest you talk to him about where the relationship is going...
I understand that you are feeling impatient, but do you want to rush into something just because you lack patience? I think instead of focusing on why he hasn't proposed, why not just leave it to him...naturally you should make sure there is going to be a proposal in the near future, but there is no need to speed up the process, since you are already sure he is the one for you.
Talk to him, about how you feel very comfortable with him, and that you know that if ever in your life, you want to solidify your commitment with him. You will be able to read signs of relief, anxiousness, frustration, anger etc. right away...Ask him how he feels, and then you should come up with a joint decision. Make sure you tell him the proposal, time and place, is of course left up to him.
2006-10-20 14:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bringing it up is not "pushing" the issue. There's nothing wrong with you letting him know that you would like to start thinking about marriage and family. It might send him running the other way, but most likely he will sleep on it, and ask you to marry him eventually.
2006-10-20 14:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought that all couples who are serious have a conversation about marriage,just to see if they are on the same page. I'm getting the impression that you two probably have not had this initial conversation. If this is true then talk to him about it. This will at least tell you if he feels that that's where your relationship is headed. You are not pushing the issue by doing this. If you guys have had this conversation then it's probably just a matter of time. Guys have to build up the guts to do it.
2006-10-20 14:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has marriage ever come up in any conversations. Some people don't feel the need to get married. If he would like to get married eventually and start a family??? You could always bring up the subject that way. See his reaction. Don't push, just let him know that you would eventually like to get married one day.
2006-10-20 14:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you and this guy love each other and you don't wanna push him then just talk to him about. Talking isn't pushing the subject, and if you don't know how to bring it up ask him if he'd ever consider marriage and go from there. Good luck!!
2006-10-20 14:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex wife was afraid I was going to leave her when was was dating so she stopped taking Birth control and got pregnant. So i married her and did everything I could to make her happy. 3 years later she found a new man and wanted a divorce. THink it thru
2006-10-20 14:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by SuperSoldierGIJOE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and honest with him without whining or begging.
Find out what his plans are and see if they match up with yours or move on.
2006-10-20 14:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not a mind reader. Tell him what's really on your mind.
2006-10-20 14:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋