myself and my husband were living separately due to some problems. now by next month we r going to join together after a counscelling. i fell very much embarrassed about it. nearly it was 11/2 years period we didnt speak with each other. many things happened between us. now when i think of getting back to him , i could not not able explain how i feel , how to get through it.
2006-10-20 07:09:11 · 10 answers · asked by hi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So you are feeling hesitant and a bit confused about starting anew with the man with whom you had lived together for some time? Its pretty natural. Ideally it would be great if both of you took a step forward and shook hands. Or better still, embraced. But if your husband is not that forthcoming, you have to take the first step, confidently. Meet him face to face and just say, "Hey! Let us leave our past behind us and forget it altogether. I'm happy that we have a second opportunity. Let us resolve to make it work." He is bound to react to that. Get closer. Take his hand(s) in yours and ask, "Would you like me to cook (his favourite dish) for lunch/dinner today?" Space your words over a period of time. Don't be quick or abrupt. Make it appear natural and sincere. You may change it according to your taste and temperament or add something original. Now, how is that for a start? I sincerely hope this helps you.
2006-10-20 08:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First write down what u feel and then read it back to urself....
Then practice what u would 'like' to say to ur husband and ensure it doesn't end up in an argument....
If u have had counselling then u can make things better by talking....
Don't be embarrassed bcus when u start to talk u will probably forget all the anger and end up in each others arms....
I knw it is a difficult time but u need to be brave and face ur husband....u will have to speak to him sooner or later...
Take things slow and don't expect things to run smoothly straight away...try to listen and reason sensibly.
If u feel that u don't want him in ur life...then be prepared to tell him by being honest....say this is in calm voice..
Good Luck!
2006-10-20 11:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you want to get back togethe with him? If you are sure that yes this man is one i want to spend the rest of my life with, go back. If you are unsure still, after this time period, i think it is better for you to give up on this relationship.
U are emberrassed about what? Embarrassed to get back with your hubby or things you have done and said to him? if its about feeling guilty for what ever reason, then forget about it, and be happy together, now that you have been counscelled.
if its about feeling bad about being away from him for so long, dont worry, it will pass.
But this is the time, to know for sure what YOU want. you both have been through much and there is no time waste on petty issues and no point in dwelling over the past, i suppose it must have been thrashed already between both of you.
KNOW YOURSELF. ITS YOUR LIFE.
2006-10-20 07:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by JJJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right there with you, only mine moved 1200 miles away for his job. If you find any good answers please share them. I wish I knew the answer to that quetion myself, I am struggling as well, however I also feel that when you are with him, or around him you will know in your heart how you really feel, and go with your heart not just your head, Because sometimes we find people for a reason and maybe you learned something from this experience..
2006-10-20 07:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry....just be cool and calm.....believe that life has given u another opportunity to either rectify some mistakes or gain a new experience......stop feeling guilty....believe that whatever happens happens for good! All the Best........
2006-10-20 22:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know ur confused but it's ok. U can't change whatever has happened but u can make ur rest life like Heaven with him. 4get past consider ur present n future with him. Goodluck
2006-10-20 16:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like both of you are going to have to work at it. but first of all, get rid of the fear and anxiety. it does not help to make a rapproachment with such feelings. try to b brave and resourceful. wish u all the best.
2006-10-20 22:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by maynze2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOU. Do not worry about others and what they may say.
If you want to go back, then do so with your entire being, if you do not want to go back, then run.
Good Luck, God Bless!
2006-10-20 07:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO WITH POSITIVE MIND AND FORGET PAST WHAT HAPPENED. MAY BE BRIGHT FUTURE IS WAITING FOR YOU.
WISH YOU BEST AND HAPPY DIWALI.
2006-10-20 16:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that your not sure of how you feel about him?
2006-10-20 07:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋