So my little brother knocked up his girlfriend about two and a half years ago and convinced my parents to let them move in by saying that she was being kicked out by her parents. She was 17 at the time and he was 18. They've been there ever since.
They disrespect my parents, steal their money (120$ last week), and leave the house a complete mess. My parents have both told me that if it were not for the baby they'd have kicked them out already.
Now my brother has been working the whole time and is now studying to be a cop. Everyone has supported them and at one point I even "lent" my brother the money to get a car. They have money saved up (10k) but show no intention of leaving and ignore all suggestions to that end.
How can I get through to them when they won't listen to reason?
2006-10-20 07:08:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Side Note: I see my parents for a few hours every week (usually for a meal or to help out with yard work). I'm not there to stop this stuff as it happens and usually get info a few days after the fact. I want to know what I can do to help my parents with the matter or convince my brother to stop mooching.
2006-10-20 07:47:45 · update #1
Don't try to convince them, try to convince your parents to kick them out. It's one thing if he didn't have the money to move or a job to support his family, but he does now. You guys have loaned them money and they still stole from your parents, that's sad. I think your parents are good parents and they love their grandchild, but I would just let them know they have limited time left before I give them the boot. Your parents should tell them that they don't respect their house, and anyone who can't respect their guidelines and rules, can't live under their roof. Also, anyone who is disrespectful of others and their belongings definitely need to go, so keep pushing for your parents to give them an ultimatium. Tell them they have six months to find somewhere else to go and that's it. I would even tell them, the baby can stay, but you guys definitely have to be out of here in six months regardless. Don't feel bad, your parents have been nice enough, they didn't appreciate them for it, so now your brother and his girl has to go. Bottom line.
2006-10-20 07:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people like this won't listen to anything they have to say. The baby is NOT your parents responsibility but your brother and they are using the baby to stay in the house. Take all of their belongings put it out on the lawn and get all the locks changed. If they have money saved up it shouldn't be a problem for them to stay in a hotel until they find an apartment. THIS is the only thing they will listen to mainly because they won't have a choice.
2006-10-20 07:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Crumbling_Cookie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No offense but I think a lot of it is on your parents. They need to be the ones to kick them out. If they aren't willing to do it, then I don't think there is much you can do. I get there is the whole baby aspect and that makes it all complicated, but they might be doing more harm then good to the child if they are not making the parents (your bro and gf) be responsible. I would, however, never lend them money. You don't want to contribute to the whole mess.
Good Luck!
2006-10-20 07:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by MeShell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your brother doesn't have respect for women. Does your mom allow him to do this to her? Has she witnessed him doing this to Becky? Does she say anything to him? Is his father part of his life? If this isn't handled, he may cause some serious problems in his teen and adult years...especially with women. Maybe there is an underlying reason for his behavior and therapy would be helpful? I hope you and your family can figure out the best way to handle this situation. Blessings!
2016-05-22 05:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Diane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must take them to court and MAKE them move and pay back the money owed. After that, you must never contact them again. They are a couple of crooks and your parents are a couple of wozzies since they have used love as an excuse for not enforcing the laws of God and nature which DEMAND that your bro and his ho
fence for themselves. Taking them in for a few months was kind, but the time has LONG expired.
Kick them out!!!
Mr. M on "little brother."
2006-10-20 07:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care? I don't see how what they or your parents do is any of your business. You are a total idiot for loaning money to him, and you should never expect to get it back.
Why do I get the feeling that YOU are still living with your parents too? If you are, move out, get a place of your own, and let them handle the situation however they see fit. They're grown-ups, and if they want to be generous toward your brother, his wife, and their grand child, accept that and be thankful you have such nice parents.
2006-10-20 07:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the peter principle, people accomplish only what they have to unless the motivation changes. In other words, YOUR PARENTS have to kick them out! :)
Would you move if you had it rent free and cushy? Neither would anyone else. Mom and Dad have to give them an eviction notice, you can't do a thing about it. You can stop helping them financially however. They'll figure it out when they have no further support that they have to step up and do it themselves.
2006-10-20 07:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly its time for them to get kicked out and grow up. If your brother and gf are bad parents let your parents take custody of the child and kick them out if they are good parents its time to kick them out and the child. There is no excuse for them to stay anymore baby or no baby its time they grow up.even if it has to be the hard way.
2006-10-20 07:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Video 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.....I would say u need to tell them that they aren't welcome at the rents anymore, they don't respect them at all, or you. Say you're willing to give them 1 more chance, but if they do something else then you're appealing straight to mum 'n' dad. Say that if you can't trust your own brother you can't trust anyone. Try to make them feel a little guilty (not a lot guilty) and say that you trusted your brother for years and years (lets hope you did anyway) before hi-school ended, and you lived with him. also check with the gfriend's parents, talk with them & stuff.
2006-10-20 07:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by casper??!! :P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't loan anyone money and it's up to your parents to kick them out of their house.
2006-10-20 07:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋