I know this girl roxy has been texting and calling my boyfriend of 3 years. I confronted her on the phone almost a month ago and she swore she would stop all contact with him and she was sorry. The thing is that she hasn't. His old phone still gets his text messages for some reason. The same incoming ones that come to his new phone. How do I get her to stop without her telling my boyfriend some bullsh*t lie and us getting into a fight about me going through his phone??? Its putting a strain on me because I know she wants him. He doesn't want her I don't think but I know she wants to be with him. She knows I am his girlfriend of 3 years and we live together but she just wont stop. She has been calling him babe and telling him she loves him. He hasn't said this stuff back. I'm not in the best health right now and I'm trying to recover. I can't recover fast because this is stressing me out on how to get her to stop. I need all the help I can get.
2006-10-20 07:05:32 · 11 answers · asked by *~*ME*~* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
KICK the sh*t out of that B*tchs A**!!! Who does that ho think she is??? I dont know what you can do you should probably tell your bf to tell that ho to back off. Thats the only she is going to leave him alone is if he tells her. Shes not going to listen to you shes focused on your man. She sounds crazy as hell!!!
2006-10-20 07:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to reevaluate your relationship. If your man didn't want her txt msging him he'd put a stop to it. That's not your place....and you probably know this. Face the music - I don't think he's really "your" man.
If he wanted to get rid of her. He'd 1. Tell her. 2. File harassment charges. 3. Change his phone number. The options are limitless. He obviously doesn't want to get rid of her. And with that being said, you need to leave him and move on.
In response to the ppl telling you to beat her up - no man is worth going to jail for. You can't go around assaulting ppl - how 'hood' is that?!? You're not the "man" so don't act like one. Want to be treated like a lady, then act like one. If your man is really into you, then he will defend you and your relationship. Your man is not a "real man".
He hasn't said this stuff back? - That YOU know of. No woman calls a man for 3 years just to get turned down. Somethings not right there....
For one you shouldn't be playing house without a commitment b/c the theory is "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". And hey, it's probably getting it from more than just one source...
So find someone that will commit to you.
2006-10-20 07:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well well well...Honey, just watch your man..If he wants her, he's going to go be with her. If he doesn't, don't worry about it. Let her text until her little fingers fall off. She'll stop eventually if she sees she is not getting anywhere. Don't stress out over it. And maybe the girl isn't the main source of your stress. Maybe it's your own insecurities about your man and yall's relationship. Doesn't seem like you have a lot of faith in yall's bond. Maybe you should talk to your man. Good luck!
2006-10-20 07:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear this!! how do u know that he doesnt call her or even text her?? that could be y she is still calling and texting him. tell ur boyfriend let him know how u feel about this girl. tell him to change his phone number or something!! then if he doesnt want to change his number or call her and tell her to stop, that means that he's been talking her!!! if gets worse than just leave him and see what he does. always remember that there is always someone or something to ruin ur relationship. but just stay strong. good luck i hope u stay with ur boyfriend
2006-10-20 07:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just wondering why you are putting energy in to try to figure out what to do about her when you need to be worried about what to do about HIM. She has no obligation to you, but as your boyfriend of 3 years, why has he not told her to stop calling and texting him. Maybe he doesn't want her to stop.
2006-10-20 07:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by ramogu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look do this tell him that you are going to tell her that you dont want her talking or texting with him any more so he knows what you are going to tell her or maybe tell her infront of him so he gets it clear and not by anyone else's lies, and second he hasnt left you after 3 years so dont be worried he wount leave you if he is been with you that long so just tell her up front with him by your side and make sure he doesnt get any call from her .
2006-10-20 07:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by esmie p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your place to get her to stop, it's your BF that if he wants her to stop. No one can take someone away from you if they don't want them to. Get your BF to tell her to leave him alone that is if he wants to be left alone. You know he could just hang up the phone but it seems to me he is enjoying all this or he would put a stop to her calls. How did she get his new number if he didn't give it to her.
2006-10-20 07:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe instead of going to her go to him and make him tell you why she is still talking to him
for some reason she still is so this tells me that there is some kind of feed back from him for her to continue
find out what it is!! most girls will quit if there is nothing to keep them coming back so make sure your boyfriend is not encouraging the situation
2006-10-20 07:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by junebug_jewel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to change his number. If the messages keep coming after that then you know he has been talking to her also and then you can handle things from there.
2006-10-20 07:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by kirkan1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But is he responding to her ? If he is then he's at as much fault as her. If he doesn't respond she will eventually stop. The fact that he's responding is what my problem would be with the whole situation. Its not a good sign.
2006-10-20 07:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋