Me and my husband have been married for 2 yrs the only time he tells me he love me is if i say it first i ask him how come he does not tell me he said he just dont think about it said it was a guy thing is that true
2006-10-20 06:53:03 · 8 answers · asked by Mags 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he says he loves you when you say you love him, obviously he is lying. Huh?
Here's how you get him to say he loves you: make a game out of it. First, give him a little good-natured ribbing about "not thinking" about it. Tease him that he's worse than an air-headed blonde. Then, when he protests, bet him $20 that he won't be able to say it to you, without being told, every day for 2 weeks. By the end of the 2 weeks, you'll either have your "I love you's" or you'll be $20 richer -- it's win-win for you. If he fails and you get the $20, you'll know that he really is just an air head. As a pleasant side effect, if he succeeds, the behavior of saying it every day will now be ingrained in his mind and he will probably continue to say it without asking.
2006-10-20 07:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Has there been a time when he's been telling you this all the time? Did he change suddenly? If he's always been "keeping to himsef", then this is just how he is. Some people are just not very expressive. It is the *change* in the level of affection that would have me worried. If the level has been more or less constant - then you simply married a less-emotional guy!
My husband never "tells" me he "loves me". But everything he does shows it. I'm happy with the arrangement. I tell him maybe a few times a year. You sound a bit needy and insecure. Remember that actions speak louder than words.
2006-10-20 06:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have been married 13 years, and he doesn't say I love you unless I say it first as well. He didn't really give me a reason for not saying it, he just doesn't.
Anyway, the ways I know that he loves me is, he listens when I talk to him, even if he doesn't agree with me. He comes and wakes me up sometimes in the morning when he gets home from work by growling in my ear. At least, I know it's him. He knows things about me that no one else knows, and acts on them, i.e., he knows my favorite flavor of ice cream.
What is it that your husband does for you? Think about it, and you will see that he does love you. Hearing the words is great, women are definitely into aural sex, but actions are better.
2006-10-20 07:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that you might want to have a little more reassurance and you enjoy hearing your husband tell you that he loves you. The main thing however is how does he behave toward you? If he behaves in a loving way, is kind, affectionate and thoughtful, then these actions speak louder than words.
2006-10-20 06:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's not true. If you had said that he doesn't tell you in front of others or doesn't show you affection in public, then that would be a guy thing. For some guys expressing their deepest feelings and emotions makes them feel vulnerable. Different things make different guys feel vulnerable. I would worry if he didn't say it back.
2006-10-20 06:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Keke 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I tell each other "I Love you" all the time.
When we leave for work. get home for the day. go out to run an errand. go to sleep. bottom of emails. when we hang up the phone.
I don't know why you have to say it first. Just keep saying it.
2006-10-20 06:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
guys arent normally very good at expressing their feelings. Doesnt mean they dont feel that way, but just have a hard time saying so.
2006-10-20 06:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
some men r like tht they dont know to express their love
2006-10-20 07:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by hi 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋