He complains because I don't give it up enough, but I would LOVE if he treated me (touched, talked, etc.) like LL cool J does in his videos. I'm not trying to be stupid, but really guys, thats how you get girls to really give it up. It really works, but guys don't want to do the work. Whats the deal??!
2006-10-20 06:42:51 · 14 answers · asked by Sweet Belly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's ready to go ALL the time, he doesn't understand that I just am not. I have other things going on, so I can't just jump in and get busy like he can. I COULD be, if he took that extra time an care, but he doesn't want to.
2006-10-20 06:59:00 · update #1
Sounds like he doesn't understand the word "foreplay" and foreplay begins with the right caress, the right mood, the gentle touch. (Or not so gentle for some.) Find some sexy videos (even soft porn if you dare) and speak up if something turns you on. You don't have to beat him over the head with it (I hope). Just speak up softly, sigh, and moan quietly (don't be too obvious).
2006-10-20 06:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean on that point to a certain point. My husband do try to get me in the mood but I'm just not feeling it. I don't know what to do anymore. Sometimes I get so afraid that this problem is going to puch him into the arms of another. It's sad to say but that's what push me into wanting to do the damn thing. I start think that I could do it better then any other and want to prove it to him and myself that I can do it better then any other and that's what usually get me going. So I don't know why that get me feeling kind of freaky but hey whatever works. I alos know that my husban cheating has caused me not to want todo the things we use to so I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-20 14:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Good2Go 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should dress like a video chick in the bedroom. Seriously, I don't really know what you mean by how LL treats women, but maybe if you initiated things and told him what you wanted him to do, and he saw your reaction, he would do those things on his own in the future.
2006-10-20 13:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by ramogu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. My husband is ready all the time too and I am not. He says that he just lust after me all the time and I should feel the same way about him. I used to before the kids came along but now I am just to busy with work-work and home-work and trying to catch up on sleep. He says that sex is extremely important to him but it is not to me. Our marriage is important to me & understanding each other is important to me. Maybe women should be gung ho for it but we get so worked up over other things that we just don't because they do get so worked up over it. who knows? maybe this should be in the psych question department.
2006-10-20 15:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by staxi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you actually talked with him about it....if not then maybe you should do so....My husband was the same way, now we have a great time. Don't be afraid to let him know what you want...how else will he know.
Sometimes good sex come from feeding your mans ego and if you let him know that you are not satisfied, he will do whatever you want him too...to get you satisfied.
2006-10-20 13:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by mocahontas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During my 1 year of marriage I have come to learn a lot about guys and how they differ from women. Younger guys don't pay attention to what women like, want or need. You have to tell them. I know I know, if you tell them then it's not the same, but if you don't tell them then they won't know. PLEASE NEVER TELL YOUR MAN THAT YOU WANT HIM TO CARRESS YOU LIKE LL COOL J DOES. One more thing he may come across as selfish, but he doesn't mean to be that way.
2006-10-20 13:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then go be with ll coo j then, me and my wife had the same problem you two are going into a circle you want him to treat you right before you give it up and he wants you to give it up for him to be nice he is frustrated if you don't give it up fast men will look some where else trust me even if he stays with you.
2006-10-20 13:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by whynot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question. If guys made more of an effort to make sex good for their wives/girlfriends maybe women would want to have sex more often. I think if a woman just doesn't want to, maybe he should take a look at his technique.
2006-10-20 13:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's selfish. Tell him so. He wants the meal but he doesnt want to cook it. I told my x before he became the x that the only way he's gonna drive is if he starts the engine and warms it up. You know he got to working.
2006-10-20 13:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women are just wired differently. For them all they have to do is SEE us, and they are ready to dive in. For us it is mental so we have to WARM up to the idea. They usually don't want to take the time, but it's a proven fact, we don't respond as quickly as they do. But as all women know.......if they did just take that time, they would TOTALLY reap the benefits.
2006-10-20 14:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋