My husband & I are seperated. We have been trying to keep things friendly for our daughters sake. But he sort of threatened me last night & now I'm scared. His brothers are in this country illegally & I am planning on getting a restraining order to keep his brothers away from my daughter, because they have made threats about sending her to Syria in the past. Last night we were discussing the divorce & making plans to file. He asked me what a restraining order was & after I explained it to him he freaked out. He told me if I filed a restraining order, my life wouldnt be worth a minute. He got reall crazy-eyed & said don't "F" with arabic blood you understand or you will regret it!!! He left & told me if I reported anything, I wouldn't be around to see what happened. Any help how I should handle this? Thanks
2006-10-20 06:24:16 · 16 answers · asked by Amy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may be scared, but you need to let friends and family know about this.
Contact the police, and tell them your situation.
They can handle it better than anybody here at yahoo answers.
I hope things work out,
Drew Bryant
http://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com
2006-10-20 06:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by drew.bryant 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First notify the police and they will helpyou get in touch with a localshelter that should take you and your kids into a safe hiding place and dont tell anyone where you are. Notify the courts for an immediate protective restraining order to help the police keep them away from you. The police should alert the immigration dept on his brothers. This guy may just be shooting his mouth off but theres no need to take a chance here so do this immediately and good luck.
2006-10-20 06:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET THAT RESTRAINING ORDER. OTHERWISE, WHAT IS TO KEEP HIM FROM DOING IT ANYWAY??? ATLEAST IF IT IS ON RECORD.........THEY WILL TAKE HIM AWAY QUICKLY. INCLUDE HIS BROTHERS TOO!!!
My husband is AMERICAN, and I did it. You have to cover your own butt. File restraining order, and that will even HELP in your divorce decree. You watch the news, like all of the rest of America. You see what happens. Don't be a statistic. Don't let him control you with fear and intimidation. Protect yourself.
Get the restraining order, watch your back when you are in public. Be aware of who is around you, etc. Get some pepper spray, and keep your cell phone on you, and maybe even a second.....prepaid or something just to be safe. Leave clear instructions at home, or in your car, in your purse about what is going on so that in the event of what appears to be 'foul play', police and family members will have an idea of where to look.
But most importantly, if you get that restraining order, and something DOES happen to you, or your daughter gets kidnapped, and there APPEARS to be no suspect........your soon to be ex will AUTOMATICALLY be a suspect, his brothers too, because he will be the only one ON RECORD with a motive to do it. Be wise, protect yourself. And don't let him control you with threats and intimidation. You will regret it if you don't.
And in the future, write down every occurence. If he calls you on the telephone, record it. It may not be admissible in the beginning, but the judge will HEAR for himself. Or get witnesses, and keep a recording device in your home, if he comes there. But from now on, don't let him come to your home. File those papers, and sorry to say.....but keep the kids away. Atleast until you get things settled. And you can request SUPERVISED visits with him. Because again, you watch the news like we all do. I hate to say it, but you have to consider, that maybe just maybe the only way he can get through to hurt you would be to hurt the children. And then to get away with it.....hurt and/or kill himself.
I don't mean to scare you, but you have to consider everything, to the very last detail. The only power you have, short of relocating and never seeing him again.......is the restraining order. Do it, and DON'T DELAY. DO IT TODAY.
I did for my soon to be ex, and I feel alot better. He threatened and said alot.......and you'd be surprised how QUICKLY he mellowed out after those papers got served by the Solano County Sheriff's Department. Otherwise, without it, you'll be a faceless, nameless victim, and you will be the one we watch on the news. Take it to heart.
2006-10-20 07:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is a bigger problem, but if you make a restraining order agains his brohters you need to do the same with your husband, you´re saperated now, and your sister is only a excuse to do it, you can have a better life only with your sister, it´s better put a finish to this situation, good look, but you make a restraining order against your husband and if he brake it, he is in truble.
2006-10-20 06:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by oscar53394 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i suggest you first of all write down in detail what happened and take it to the police, ask them to keep it on file for further reference, then contact your lawyer advicing them what has taken place and provide them with the letter you turned over to the cops. since he is from a different country do not take a chance that he would not carry out his threats. i have a friend who was in the same situation and she has been overseas four times trying to get her children back. and he faces arrest upon his return.
2006-10-20 06:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police and report that you were threatened. Apparently, you too need a restraining order not just from his brothers, but also from him. God bless you -- I will pray for you.
2006-10-20 06:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amy, you left me a message. I think what you said was right. We are both in the same situation and may have to compare notes. It is best that you get away from that crazy man and do it fast! It is your job to protect yourself and your children. Get a hold of the authorities they have more power than him and so do you. My email isn't working but you should give me yours.
2006-10-20 15:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sieanna K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your local family crises network and set up immediate housing at your local shelter they can protect you and and call the police on your behalf,, set up meetings with councilors and file restrain orders and tpo's (temporary protection orders) i don't know what the area is but every state has a Family Crises Network somewhere..or call your local department of family services for info.
2006-10-20 15:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by westvirginiastar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have reason to be worried. They may want her raised in their culture now. If he has visitation alone with her, they could decide to take her out of the country. I would talk to the police and a lawyer to find out how to protect yourselves.
2006-10-20 06:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust him or his kind. Get a lawyer real fast. Protect your daughter NOW. Those people are all terrorists and don't deal with things the way us humans do. Move, become annonymous, change your name, get help quick.
2006-10-20 06:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by Nose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋