i found out that i am pregnant about 3 weeks ago and i told my bf but he said 4 me 2 get rid of it and i said no..and now hes saying he will see the kid but dont know what will go on between me and him cause he feels e is being trapped in2 something he dont wanna be trapped in2..but i love him loads and i dont know what i would do with out him..i dont know what 2 do..x
2006-10-20 06:20:15 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Whenever you decide to have sex, unprotected or not, there's always a chance that you could get pregnant. So by having sex, he (and you) are really saying "It's possible we could get pregnant, and I'm willing to face the consequences if that should happen." That being said, it seems like he is not ready for this. He may come around- he may not. But make sure you file for child support at the courthouse. Unless you two are living together, he can be obligated to pay as long as you file.
What you will do without him if that should occur- you will be so busy with the new baby that you won't have time to think about him, trust me. There's a lot of hormones running around in your body, and they are just going to get worse the farther along you get. Just remember to keep your eye on the prize- your beautiful new baby. This child will love you unconditionally, a love that no boyfriend can match. You will see. It's a different kind of love, and I'm sure that it will take the place of what you think you're missing. Just have some self-esteem and self-respect and make sure that those who enter your child's life are loving, caring people.
2006-10-22 05:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by punchy333 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tha's a hard question to answer when one doesn't know all the detials.. how old r u? how long have you been with this guy - but i guess it doesn't really matter now.. Do you believe in abortions? Do you know the impact it can have on your mentality, body, emotions?? are you prepared to deal with that if you decide to end your pregnancy. Are you ready for a child, i personally think no one is truely ready for a child, no matter how much you have to offer.
I have 2 little girls aged 7 and 3 yrs old, and I would NEVER give them up for anything.
If this boy isn't ready for a child, then tell him to beat it, cause You are a strong woman and don't need to let him bring you down cause he's feeling 'trapped' .. i say Keep it Girl ..
2006-10-20 06:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greetings!
This is not advice. It's just what I would consider doing, were I in your shoes:
1) Take a DEEP BREATH! Take several. You're in for ONE interesting ride.
2) Tell your parents. They may not enjoy the news right away, however they are most likely your only real support right now. If you were "grown" enough to get pregnant, you're grown enough to tell them and ask for help.
3) Talk to the boy's parents. Let them know he is the father and that you expect him to participate in the child's life - completely, or at the very least, financially.
4) Talk to the boy and "design" your relationship. Is he going to be a full partner, or just give money, or what???
5) Consider adoption. If this is too much for you to handle right now, give the child to a loving family who will take care of it.
6) Learn from this experience. Your body "works". You now know that you CAN have a child. Use protection (and better judgment) in future intimate encounters.
7) Should you decide to keep the child, get plenty of rest, eat GOOD, organic food, take your vitamins and seek out as much help as you can.
I wish you Peace.
2006-10-20 06:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is why sex is not for the young. This story is common. You will have to learn to be a single mother. You can go to court and ask for child support.
If he doesn't want to have the kid in life, that is his right. These are things that should be thought about before 'jumping into bed!
It's a very hard lesson you had to learn. Never expect a man to be there for you, once he has "gotten what he wanted."
2006-10-20 06:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for child support as soon as the baby is born. Plenty of women raise babies by themselves. I've been a single parent since my son was just a little baby. I just hope you have family and friends that will be supportive of you, and help you get through it all. we all make mistakes, especially in the name of love. You sound too young to be having a baby, but you can do anything you put your mind to. If he didn't want to be "trapped", he shouldn't have had unprotected sex with you. Remind him of that. Good luck!
2006-10-20 07:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the worst thing in the world to raise a child on your own. I was 3 months prego when i found out my daughter's dad was cheating on me. It has been hard but I did it on my own with out him. How old are u?? I was 19 and was able to find a good job that i've done for 5 years now. If u really want this baby you'll find a way to do it without him and if he really loved you he wouldn't be acting this way. Good Luck
2006-10-20 06:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The hard part is realizing that you love him more than he loves you, because he loved you enough that night. He may come around, but don't make a choice based soley on the other person. And him being like this is probably showing you a part of him you never knew before. Whatever decision you make has to be the right one for YOU. You have to be able to live with the choice you make so think it through. Don't live for others, but live for yourself, you are the only one who is with you your entire life.
2006-10-20 06:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did he ever think that he helped you get preg and your trapped with him to? I'm sure he is acting like that because he is scared, thats just how some guys are! Give it a few weeks for him to sink into the idea. Good Luck and Congrats!
2006-10-20 06:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He don't deserve you or the baby telling you to get rid of it, he doesn't love you if he said that, raise the baby on your own don't let someone like that in your child's life, get him for child support, he says you are trapping him into something, well news flash for him he helped you get pregnant.
2006-10-20 07:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a loser. You should've thought about the consequences. Based on your writing skills you've got to be young. I suggest that give give the baby up for adoption so that people who desperatly want a child can have one instead of people who are irresponsible and feel like the kid is a burden.
2006-10-20 06:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋