I have lost the sexual attraction for my husband, how do i get my desire back?

Answer 1

Someone else asked a question similar to yours about a week ago. This is what I wrote to them, it may help you.
If he is a good guy and not hurting you etc. then maybe the problem isn't him, but you. As woman we have a lot of rolls to play and a ton of things on our minds. Because of this it is sometimes hard to stop thinking about the milk that needs bought or the paper that is due at work or the kid that needs new glasses and enjoy the intimate closeness of our husbands. You could be mistaking something like this as not being attracted to him. Before you give up on him or your marriage try clearing your mind and relaxing before and during intimacy with him. Try to think only by way of positive feelings and not in the form of words. Think of good things and above all don't let your mind slip back to the kids or house work!
As hard as it may be to do, you may want to talk to your husband about this problem. You will both have to be open minded but the two of you may be able to come up with some ways that can help him feel more attractive to you. For example if he has put on weight and you feel unattracted because of this, perhaps the two of you could go on walks together or spend some time cooking healthier together.
The possibilities are endless! Be positive and remember, change can only come if you want it. "you gotta wanna"

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Focus on all those things that brought the two of you together. You don't just wake up one day and decide that you are sexually unattracted to the man you are married to. Go back down memory lane and focus on the great things and let yourself fall in love all over again. It won't be easy now because you have already admitted that you have fallen out of love. You will have to work at it and be committed to your marriage. Good luck, and you can find love again along with sexual attraction.

Answer 3

My opinion is desire is a mental thought process, So i encourage you to remember all the great wonderful things about your husband and rekindle the basic relationship first.
another words try being best friends again, and enjoy each others company the way you used to yrs ago when you couldn't get enough of each other. You know the playful days of yester year.

maybe go out on a special date, just you and him and just try to spark the romance and try to really enjoy each other.

then mentally you will again see the man you love for what he is and maybe your libio will start to kick in. and as always i preach strong comunication with your man regarding what will turn each other on.

I look forward to seeing your love life improve

Answer 4

From Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s books: "A good man is too hard to find, not to keep." "Sex is a very important part of a marriage because it creates a physical and emotional bond." "Frankly I have been amazed at how blatant and cruel so many wives have become over the issue of their marital intimacy. Women call me to complain about their husband's desire for them all the time. Complain! As if being desired were some kind of intrusion or insult." "Sex for men is like talking is for women with respect to feeling loved, cared about, and special." "I am often challenged by an angry woman with the question 'Am I obligated to have sex with my husband?' My answer has always been the same. 'Yes, the same way he is obligated to go to work and support the family even when he doesn't feel like it.'" "Get over yourselves and get under your men. If you don't, when the kids are up and out he'll likely go with them."

Answer 5

I'm taking it, that it's towards your husband and not men in general, from your question. Throughout life, men and women, go through time periods when they don't want it as often. If it's a continueing thing, then see a doctor and try to patch anything up with your husband. If it's just a time period thing, your husband should understand if he loves you, as you would hopefully do the same.

Answer 6

be honest with him, if you have children hire a baby sister and begin courting each other all over again. you need to do things together as a couple alone without family and friends being in the way. it can be as simple as going for a walk in the woods or going on a mini vacation to some place romantic for just the two of him. tell him that females need the romantic side of the relationship even more as they get older, and that he needs to make time to develop and nourish that side of the relationship. if he is willing this will rekindle the sparkle

Answer 7

Tell him what is happening. Start dating each other again and make the dates special events. Do everything as if you just started dating. Haircut, nice clothes, perfume or cologne. When you are out on the date. reminisce about great moments that you've had. Talk about what attracted you to each other. If you do this right, it will work.

Answer 8

You don't say why. Is he not looking after himself? Have you been together forever and a day? Attraction is in the mind, wine & dine him and take him out of your regular routine. Perhaps if you see him in a different light the spark will return.

Answer 9

Questions of this nature really cannot be answered with any certainty. How's his desire for you? Maybe the two of you should work on it.
I suspect you'd have better results than soliciting answers here.

Answer 10

Maybe seeing other women who are attracted to him and show it will remind you why you used to be attracted to him and will spark some kind of jealousy or possessiveness in you.