i've gotten so many wonderful suggestions from girls the last couple weeks and i wanted to say thanks so much. usually there from girls cuz girls are so much more kind than guys. one of many reasons why girls are truly the better sex. so girls, please give me a suggestion. although i'm a guy, i've truly wanted to be a girl my whole life. and although i'm a girl at home i've never went out as a girl. up untill 2 nights ago. i did it! i finally said i want this so bad and so i fixed my hair, put on this fabulous make-up and dressed in my sexiest lingerie and my prettiest dress and went out. it was the most wonderful night of my life. to be able to finally be me.... a girl, was fabs. to go shopping and have someone open the door for me, it was everything i ever hoped for. how do i tell everyone that i want so bad to be the girl i luv being? thanks so much :)
2006-10-20 05:51:52 · 22 answers · asked by ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would suggest counselling to talk to someone about how you're going to come out. It really does help, and its just someone to talk to. Also, there are women who help teach transgendered men how to act and dress like women - i would also reccommend that. Please realize that there will be some shock over your choices, but you must stress that you are still the same person inside and your gender preferences makes no difference to that. As a native san franciscan, i am very supportive of your journey to discover your true self. Message me if you want any help!
2006-10-20 05:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations on finally feeling that you can truly be who you are. it's wonderful that you took that big step and not hide anymore your true self. I'm sure that you are a wonderful person and now you are going to be completely happy. i think that you should tell first the people that you trust more and are more important to you. i don't know how they are going to react but just tell them how you feel and be ready for anything because they will be shocked, surprise and they'll react in a way that maybe you won't like but if they love you and care for you then they'll accept you just the way that you are. i know it's going to be hard but ones you get all this over with you're going to feel liberated and you'll have an inner peace that you didn't felt because you were hiding this. the important thing is that you are true to yourself and you know what you want and that you are happy and that's what really matters. GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-20 13:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by bluemoon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work it, girl! If it truly makes you happy, and you can honestly admit to yourself that it's not a repressed reaction to or avoidance of any psychological issue... then embrace it! I'd suggest moving to a transgender-friendly area like San Francisco, Los Angeles, New York, or Miami so you will have a supportive community to help ease your transition. A lot of people out there will tell you it's sick, wrong, or weird... but if it honestly makes you happy and is an expression of who you really are, then what the heck do they know?
Get out there and enjoy life, sister!
2006-10-20 13:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you don't have to "tell" anyone because you know alot of people are not going to be receptive to this way of thinking. If you're happy being a female and you feel deep down in your heart that's who you are, just do what makes YOU feel good without feeling guilty or feeling like you have to confess to the whole world. Just be "YOU"....whatever/whoever that is. No one can make You happier than YOU can! And if people don't like it, so be it. I think you're brave and connected with your inner-self. Alot of "regular" folks never have that in their lives. I'm a middle aged granny and I'd be happy to help you out anytime you have a question about being a "girl". Remember, God don't make no junk!!! Godloveya, dear. (dearbobbye@yahoo.com)
2006-10-20 13:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, good for you. I want to recommend you post this in a different category, though... there is a whole section devoted to people who are "trans-gender". Those people are going to have SO much more experience in helping you with this "coming out". Cuz I've been a girl my whole life, so I don't know how to help! I sure wish you the best, though. Good luck.
2006-10-20 12:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by stillstanding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm..well i'm glad you're exploring who you really are. I can only imagine how difficult it must be sometimes...I would maybe tell my close family and friends, the people you know who are going to support you, and take it from there. You are not the only one going through this; maybe look up some groups online or in your city, i'm sure they would have great advice on helping you through this.
being a girl and getting all pretty is SO much better isnt it?! :)
2006-10-20 12:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Amy227 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go GIRL =). You make your wishes public, and those who do not respect that weren't your friends in the first place. You will learn a lot about those people that you may have never known. If you feel good, those who love you will accept it. They don't have to UNDERSTAND it, so don't give them explanations for your behavior, but they will have to ACCEPT it.
2006-10-20 12:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is what you want than you must absolutly insist on it. If in your mind and heart you are a girl than be a girl. You must insist on being treated like one. All women are queens and therefore must be treated like one. Demand respect and you will get it. So if you demand that people know you as a woman than people will treat you like on. Good Luck Sweetie!!
2006-10-20 12:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by wlissa_sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you are doing what you love!!! Just be very honest with your friends, and prepare for some hard questiong they might ask you... Most people arent around people like you every day, so they might be asking alot of question on why??
2006-10-20 12:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with what feels right for you...one question though, do you date as a man or as a woman, because that might be confusing for your partner....if you are straight, explain to your lady the situation...i used to have a male friend that loved the look of women's clothing, but his wife did not understand
good luck and be happy!
2006-10-20 12:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by BOOYAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋