She says the most cruel and hateful things about this cute little Vietnamese girl that I've been dating, and she doesn't even know her. She was the same way towards this one Italian girl, 2 different black girls and even a Puerto Rican girl, and my wife IS Puerto Rican! I wish she wouldn't be so judgemental based on someones ethnicity, but she doesn't even listen to me. I didn't know she was this way when I started dating her, but now how do I deal with all the hatred?
2006-10-20 05:31:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry she's putting you through this. It must be very difficult for you. Sometimes people are very closed minded and nothing you tell her is going to make her come around. To even be racist against her own people is pretty bad, maybe she needs to be in counseling to see why she is such a mean and spiteful person. She should be excepting of these people, if for no other reason than they make you happy. She has serious mental issues.
2006-10-20 06:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife says hateful things about your girlfriend? I smell bullclinton...
Thanks for the points. Less than 20 to go and I hit Level 5.
2006-10-20 06:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her lack of compersion and sense of self (or lack thereof) may be contributing to the remarks about your Vietnamese girlfriend, but if she truly deep-seated racism, there's not much you can do other than cut her off when she starts spewing verbal diahrrea, educate her, and stand strong in that you won't tolerate racist remarks and actions.
PS; I could be wrong but, for all of you who are confused, it sounds like this man is polyamorous, which is a completely different animal from swinging and cheating. *shrug*
2006-10-20 05:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Leena Rosen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of Open Relationships, even know some esteem challenged who've sought them but this is unreal. When you visit the bathroom, look long and hard in the mirror and tell that clown peering back at you to "GROW UP!"
2006-10-20 05:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by ralegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your wife isn't racist but just hates the idea of you sticking your thing in all these women while your married. No matter the race unless you have an open marriage it might be the fact your screwing everyone but her that upsets her
2006-10-20 05:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? You're married and dating the vietnamese girl? LOL
2006-10-20 05:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know get all your girlfriends together and have a racist intervention!and if it doesn't work out you can kick her out and have a round of nekkid twister with your girlfriends!lol!!!make sure it doesn't break out into a cat fight though!youll have those lee press on nails flying everywhere!!
2006-10-20 05:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by BAMBAM1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you OK? Your wife shouldn't be saying rascist things, but you shouldn't be dating other women.
2006-10-20 06:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Steven R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be because you are dating them... You called her your wife and not ex wife... does that mean "still married"... Duhhh! That may be the reason...
2006-10-20 05:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by Dani_n_keem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That didnt make any sense.. your wife is probably just pissed because your dating other women!
2006-10-20 05:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sick Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋