My husband's best friend has been really flirty lately and even though i am pregnant he is trying to have sex with me. Should i tell my husband or will he think i am lying. Should i tell him that i am uncomfortable being around his best friend. Do you think i wuold be better off telling the bestfriend's girlfriend or will that just start a fight? I don't want to lose my husband and father of my child over something that could amount out to nothing. What should i do, tell him or keep a secret and maybe it will go away?
2006-10-20 05:28:40 · 36 answers · asked by brwnladi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no better gift one can give to their spouse than honesty. No matter what, this is a building tool and is a catalyst to a very strong relationship with a vision and a future. Also, depending on your lifestyle(and oh what a variety of these there are) and in the spirit of do onto others ...etc etc.. would you not want to know if your female best friend was circumventing your friendship bond by making advances to your husband?? Ya gotta tell him. Find the right time and let go of this issue. I think you will gain a whack of respect. Good luck.
2006-10-20 05:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Magnus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Tell him. He probably just wants you because he knows you can't get pregnant. I am pregnant with my second child and I swear I get hit on more when I am. And some men actually come out and say " the best thing about a pregnant woman is knowing you can't get her that way! "
If your husband doesn't believe his own wife over a friend, then you don't need him anyway.
2006-10-20 05:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
From what you describe this guy has a fetish for pregnant women. He was somewhat interested before but has stepped it up recently - He may be hitting on you especially because you are pregnant now.
I would tell your husband that he is making you uncomfortable and kind of creeping you out without going into to many details, he may chalk it up to pregnant women are emotional or whatever but hopefully with not too much fuss he will ask his friend to stay away from you.
2006-10-20 05:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time all of you are in the room together would be a good time to tell your husband....just bring it up in a general way that a way maybe the best friend will get the hint but your husband can also keep his eyes open.
2006-10-20 05:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and right away. If even if the friend is only kidding, his behavior is highly inappropriate and it makes you uncomfortable. Your husband should know what his so-called friend is up to so he can kick him to the curb.
The next time it happens tell the friend to knock it off and then immediately report it your husband. If your husband doesn't believe you, then you have bigger problems with your marriage that you need to work out.
2006-10-20 05:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by aibnyc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should tell the guy just where to get off if that doesn't work tell your husband that you are uncomfortable around this guy and you don't like how he approaches and speaks to you because if something big came out of it like the friend's girlfriend seeing or hearing something or God forbid your husband - you might get all the blame , at least you would have told your husband - your one defence.
2006-10-20 05:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by subrina m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell his "Best Friend" that he's a piece of **** as far as a best friend goes. Let him know he can either get his act together or else your husband will. If you have to (because he doesn't change) let your husband know what's going on and what you did to try to stop him from being a shithead. If your husband is worth his salt, you'll be well taken care of....email me anytime for more on the subject
2006-10-20 05:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since its his best friend I would broach the subject like this...honey you know I really like Bob, but lately Im uncomfortable with how he acts toward me.....give a few examples...if hubby blows it off at least the next time Bob's around maybe he will pick up on the behaviors and see it for himself.....If you say nothing to hubby there is a chance he'll pick up on the flirting and think you invited it
2006-10-20 05:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ain't gonna go away! You need to have a talk with the best friend the next time he makes any lude comments or gestures towards you. Tell him that your husband considers him his best friend. Remind him that best friends don't treat their friends' wife like he's doing and you find it appauling that he considers your husband his friend when he's doing sleezy crap like hitting up on you! Tell him to knock it off and that you've already told your husband that you're uncomfortable with him around and if he keeps up this crap, you'll let your husband know the reasons why!! You shouldn't have to put up with this!! If it keeps up, tell your husband. Let him know that you tried to handle it yourself, but his friend still will not leave you alone!
2006-10-20 05:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by yokrem 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, the same thing happen to e and because they were so close i decided to keep it to myself thinking...as long as i don't respond to him then maybe this will all go away, well my bf started to think something was strange so whenI told him he really didn't know what to believe but he soon realized that his friend is a flirt with everbody's firends so why would he be dirfferent with me...saying that to say tell him NOW! RIGHT NOW!!!
2006-10-20 05:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋