On Tuesday,(10-17) I went to wal-mart. I was walking over to look at video games, and a Soldier and His friend were staring at me. I went to the next isle over(bikes for 5 yr olds) and I told my mom. About 2 minutes later, the Soldier came over dn I walked to the other side of the isle. He started talking to my mom and step-dad, and told them He is going to Iraq soon. When He left, my mom came oveer and said i was mean and he just wanted to follow me. My step dad said he probably just wanted someone to write to. I feel so BAD now. I dont think I will ever see him again, so I cant appolagize. I think that is the only way I will ever feel ok again. What should I do!! PLEASE HELP!! My mom already knows I feel bad, and she wanted me too. I cant even fall asleep that easy now.
(P.S. I am only 13)
2006-10-20 04:59:49 · 8 answers · asked by autumnlynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am 100% sure this happened, and I feel REALLY BAD now. I want someone to geive me advice.
2006-10-20 05:06:51 · update #1
I walked away becuase i was nervous. now i am starting to think i did the wrong thing. I really wish i could gp bac in time and stay and actually talk to him.
2006-10-20 05:11:56 · update #2
if it were anyone else on the planet staring at you and wanted to follow you in wal-mart, it would have been an ugly situation. walking away was the best you could have done and going by your gut shouldn't make anyone upset. whether he was a soldier or not, he's a full-grown man staring at a 13 year-old. if he was legit, he would have voiced his intentions from the get go, but since he didn't, soldier or not, he was still just a stranger. you did the right thing. respect is a given, but protect yourself first. if you feel uncomfortable, don't roll with it.
2006-10-23 14:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by brettus m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're mom and dad are wrong. You don't owe anybody anything. Including letting them stare at you. You are only 13. You did the absolute right thing. You followed your instincts.
Yesterday, I was walking back from lunch and for 4 blocks this creepy guy was walking really close to me and every so often he'd make a comment that was stupid. He was trying to spark a conversation. So, I stopped at a red light and cars were zooming by and he once again came really close and said "Come on cross... I wont tell anyone, I'll do it if you do it" and I said VERY RUDELY "If you want to cross...cross!" He knew he bugged me. Still waiting at the red light he said "I didn't mean to offend you. I am really sorry." Screw him. I didn't feel bad for being rude. Why was he walking so close. If you give a crazy/pervert an inch, they'll take a foot.
You did the right thing. Stick to your instincts. Don't let people take advantage of you, even by looking at you. You never know where it might lead.
2006-10-20 12:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by ☆miss☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I am just confused! So a soldier was at Wal-Mart with his friend and they were 'staring' and 'following you'. You left and told your mom and then he came up to these complete strangers and told them he was going to Iraq?! Why would he tell complete strangers? Why would he want to follow you around? It makes no sense. And I really don't' understand what you feel so bad for. He is a stranger who was following you around in the store and staring at you. For all you knew he could have been a killer or rapist. Don't talk to strangers.
Maybe he thought you were older than 13! He and his friend were going to lay the "I'm leaving soon and don't know if I'm coming home" speech on you, and hope you felt bad and gave them some lovin'. Hey it happens. Then when they saw your parents they realized you were to young and left.
2006-10-20 18:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he was dressed as a soldier doesn't mean he was. I don't care if you're a police officer, if someone is following my daughter around, I would tell them to back off!
Your parents need to wise up a little. He could have been going to Iraq, but just because he said it, doesn't make it true. He was a strange man following a young girl.They need to be more worried for your safety. Not hurting some strangers feelings.
You were not wrong to do what you did. Your mother is wrong for trying to make you feel guilty about it.
(Even if what he said is true - He's a grown man, believe me, he's not harping on this the way you are.)
2006-10-20 12:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 kids myself.... 17,14,13 and I would be so relieved to think that they would do exactly what you did... be proud of your decision and your feeling of something not feeling right.... obviously you have learned this on your own and not from your parents...YOU DID THE RIGHT THING !! Think about it, just how many "soldiers" visit WALMART looking for a penpal??? come on.....
2006-10-20 12:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13??? Hun, you did absolutely nothing wrong. I don't blame you for walking away, you handled that exactly right.
I know it's easier to say "well just stop feeling bad" than to actually do it, but that's my advice. Don't beat yourself up, you handled the whole situation perfectly.
2006-10-20 12:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very street smart. You used good judgement. Sounds like your parents are too trusting. Anyone can get Army fatigues.
2006-10-20 12:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by heavnbound 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are crazy. That guy was probably a pedophile. Are you sure this really happened?
2006-10-20 12:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋