I hate it when people say, "If I am friends with someone who is gay, will I turn gay?"
I am so sick and tired of people assuming that they can turn, become, have it rubbed off on you by being near someone, etc..
This is not an infectious disease. This is a way of life for the people who are gay. They weren't turned gay.
Even people that have been in hetro relationships and then enter into a gay relationship weren't turned gay. They have been gay from day one, and have just had those feelings repressed because of how society looks at the gay community as being nasty, hiv infected, and infectious, etc etc
I say if you admit that your gay, then you truely are someone to be admired for having the guts to admit to a homophobic world.
No I am not gay. But I have many friends that are and we have been friends for many years. I am just someone that is sick and tired of homophobic people.
2006-10-20 04:57:09 · 37 answers · asked by sesamenc 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, you are right, it takes guts to be true to your natural sexual orientation when it is different from a large percent of the population.
I always suggest to students that they cultivate a wide, wide variety of friends that are NOT exactly like them. It is only when we talk to people who are different from ourselves that we can learn about how big a world we live in, with many differences, but even more similarities, between people and cultures [and orientations!].
Thanks for your question! I see a gay/straight alliance club or PFLAG in your future! :o)
p.s. to "Not Myself", who sounds a lot like mmmk92, just because you are not acting on your natural sexual orientation any more, doesn't make you any less LGBT. It just makes you more traumatized. I have yet to meet anyone who is "ex-gay," so I believe this whole concept is made up and supported by hypocritical bigots.
2006-10-20 05:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well honey I know where you're coming from because I'm also a straight woman and have lots of gay friends and have known and been around homophobic people who just will not under any circumstances even stand next to a gay person. But don't get all fired up about it. I understand that you love your gay friends but just keep saying to yourself when the dumbness of others occur, "They are the ignorant ones!" Sometimes you have to chant to yourself in mind so you don't go the hell off! I hate all kinds of stereo type labels that are set on all people. But just be cool! I always feel that the critics will eventually get theirs.
2006-10-20 05:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do give any though to what people are saying or might say.
You are an unique individual and you can't live your life by other peoples terms and expectation.
This world that we are living in is full of hate and if you listen to everything that people say you will be come as vain and corrupt as them.
Be your self my dear and you will have a fulfilled life.
2006-10-20 05:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by ahsyam 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People are stupid that way. I know what you mean. I have tons of gay friends and I had to cut loose a lot of my homophobic friends for that same reason... them thinking they can catch "gay". I still have some people around that think they can catch "black" from me. People are ignorant and close minded. Ignore them. I do!
2006-10-20 05:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
u just answerded your own question. ppl who think that they'l turn gay by bein friends with sm1 are gay atleast to some extent. that is they are bi but don't want other people to know that. otherwise why would they "worry" about turning gay! they'r scared that they'r feelings will get too strong to resist and other ppl will get to know they are gay. it takes a lot of courage for sm1 to come out and say "i'm gay" and the ppl who dont have the guts to say that...wel they'r the ones mentioned in your Q!
2006-10-20 05:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by greek_myth 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you completely. My son's god father is a gay man who has been my best friend since we were teenagers. My son knows that his god father is gay and loves him like a dad. He has never once expressed to me that he is worried about "turning gay" because of their close relationship.
I have gay and lesbian friends along with my straight friends and we all go out together, sometimes to regular bars and sometimes to gay bars. We always have a great time, and I am not worried about "turning gay" either.
Peace
2006-10-20 05:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have many gay friends and family members and i havent come across anyone that thinks if there friends with someone they will turn gay lol. i have seen that many people think that just because soemone is gay that there going to want them which is just nuts. just because soemones gay doesnt mean they want everyone they see, hell they have preferences just like the rest of us
2006-10-20 05:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Uhh.. you answered you own question i think. People tend to put all kinds of negative things into subjects they really dont know a lot about. What is unknown in sometimes feared or mocked.
2006-10-20 04:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Joyce R 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They say this so that you will abandon your gay friends and turn against them. They are trying to scare you into becoming a homophobe.
To thy own self be true.
2006-10-20 05:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Good question.
I think it has alot to do with those who oppose homosexuals are more willing to believe the most negative things that they are taught by others.
2006-10-20 05:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋