I am a female and I have never been able to orgasm from intercourse, only from oral. I have tried all kinds of positions and methods but nothing has ever works. I know that lots of women have this problem. Would it help if I went for a long period of time w/o any kind of sexual contact at all and then had sex? Help :(
2006-10-20 04:50:30 · 8 answers · asked by k 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Ok the answer here is masturbation! You need to get down what it takes during masturbation and instruct your lover on how to please you. Guys like pointers! When you finally get it down during sex... I think you should give a little something extra to him :)
2006-10-20 08:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, but it takes practice. You can get tips from www.drlaurabermanspassionfiles.com.
Try this: Have your man stimulate your G-spot while performing oral. When you get off from that, stradle him (facing him) and lean back and support yourself by holding his ankles. Arch your back to let your overly-sensitive clitoris brush up against his tummy. If he is fairly straight, the angle will pressure and create friction on your G-spot.
Since the G-spot is internal, it sometimes takes a long time to stimulate and become sensitive enough to orgasm from it. Lots of women think they are about to pee, so they hold back. Don't hold back. You will not pee.
You can try this, also. While he's on top, put your ankles on his shoulders, and have him alternate with short-shallow thrusts and deep thrusts. Think 9 shallow to one deep. The friction from the ridge around his 'head' stimulates the G-spot. It may take you a while to build up enough sensitivity to orgasm. Sometimes (depending on your partner's health and age) a guy can't hold out that long while doing this, because of the time the G-spot takes to build up sensitivity enough to orgasm. If he needs to stop and play with you, then he should. Some guys can hold out forever, and give you the time you need to build up enough sensitivity to orgasm.
So you see, my dear, that there is nothing wrong with you. Hopefully your guy can hold out, or is willing to try to by using various techniques. If he strengthened his pc muscles (stop the flow of urine, sort of like kegels) then he can learn to stop ejaculation.
If you visit that link, you will fink links to sex toys that are designed to work the G-spot. Try one by yourself so you know how it's supposed to feel, then try positions and techniques with your partner to give you that same feeling. You have to have time and patience. It takes more time than you think to even build up enough sensitivity to really even feel it with your finger, let alone orgasm. It also takes a different type of stroke than you would think. It takes a rapid stroke with some pressure and friction (or vibration). And once again, you won't pee. It is physically impossible to pee at this point.
Hang in there, sweetie! You'll have fun practicing....
2006-10-20 06:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had trouble with this.......most women who have an inability to orgasm it is all mental.....in other words quit worrying about having an orgasm...just sit back and let it feel good......it will happen you just got to quit worrying about it. Waiting a long time between will not help the matters because you will be so concentrated on orgasm that it most likely wont happen.......and then disappointment again. Good Luck. and just have fun!
2006-10-20 05:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by kndykisz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the main I had develop into 3. i develop into sore later on. approximately your difficulty, i think of that the element is which you already know your anatomy extra beneficial than your companions do. in the event that they took the time to probe formerly they entered, they could have an information of your mushy spots. you already understand those in view it somewhat is you. stable luck, yet see in case you may get a guy to do this together with his palms or his mouth as a results of fact it somewhat helps in accomplishing that orgasm. an excellent form of fellows do no longer understand this and due to this an excellent form of ladies ought to pretend orgasms.
2016-12-08 18:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try where both of you lie on your sides facing one another, you on your back, he on his side. Take is top leg and place it over you clitoris. The movements from the act should rub you the right way. Good Luck Girl!!!
2006-10-20 06:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by KC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You certainly aren't unusual, but make sure you get enough foreplay! If you have a willing and caring partner, he will vary things to help you.
2006-10-20 05:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there may be inumerable reasons first step is to consult a specialist to rule out any phsiological abnormalities then if required a psychologist dont go for any miracle medicines
2006-10-20 05:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by dummy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can you orgasm while masturbating if so then let him get behind you and reach your hand down there and take care of yourself.....sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!
2006-10-20 05:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by funkyk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋