Do any of you have any experience with Parental Alienation Syndrome?

Question

Since my husband and I divorced 15 years ago, he and his family have done everything they can to poison my children against me. It's so bad that he has told them that if they have any contact with me, he will disown them, and cut them out of his will. Now, my children are all grown and on their own, and it still haunts me. Just this morning, my 18 year old son called and told me that he wasn't sure if he could come visit me for Thanksgiving, because he was afraid of incurring the wrath of his father. I'm sick and tired of dealing with this, and add to it the fact that I have never said an ill word to the children about their father, and that just makes it more unfair. I'm just completely heartbroken over this, and I know that my children also suffer the pain of feeling like they have to "take sides". I just don't know how to cope with this anymore......

Answer 1

I'm really sorry to hear this. It's very unfair when one parent poisons the kids against the other. I'm glad my two are grown and out of the house as I'm going through problems here too. At least they are old enough to make up their own minds. (And they have)

Answer 2

Unlucky....In my family the children tended to go their own way. We being the children decided we did not care what parent thought of the other. You should have taught your children that money does not matter, only family matters. If you had they would have told their father to grow up and would go see you anyway. There are 3 sides to my family. My father, my mother, and my own. I choose my own side and it is a privilege for my parents if I visit them.

Answer 3

sounds like he is ill, in the head. it is a control issue for him. If you are close to your children then love will prevail.

Answer 4

my husband endured this dysfunctional behavior. he no longer associates with either of his parents. what helped him was reading and researching this horrible and dysfunctional behavior.
EDUCATION IS THE KEY.