There are tons of people that I see everyday with whom I am familiar. I usually say, "hi" or go into some small talk, but then that's it. Out of all the people I know, I only consider a few of them to be friends... I truly don't know how to get past the "small chat" stage.
2006-10-20 04:29:04 · 4 answers · asked by the redcuber 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
One of the best things is time. Time will tell you what is going on because that is what people need. Other things that help out are common interest. Find out hobbies, places to eat, visit on vacations, favorite teams and such. This may sound like small talk but it can turn into common talk. The art of communication is tricky and it is one art that not many can do very well. So, just be yourself, talk to people and not at them, be a good listener and be sincere with them. Also asking if they would like to do something such as take in a movie (going to or renting one), short meal, visit a coffee house or play a round of golf if that is what you and they do. Even going to church with each other can work. Look for common and sometimes uncommon ground too. Who ever is your friend will not always agree with you and it is those things that are common and uncommon that can help build friendships. Unfortunately it can go the other way too. So, "YES", there is risk involved. Look. If they want to be your friend(s), then it will happen. If not, then don't worry about it. By the way, here is another thing to keep in mind. Acquaintances come cheap, true friends are priceless. Can I get an "Amen"?
2006-10-20 04:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by is4031_us 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you truely want to become more the "hi's" to these people,. why dont' you have an informal get together,. maybe a cocktail party or a bbq. Invite a few of these people,. maybe on the invite, say something like how'd you like to just have a party for everyone to come and chat and get to know each other better. Ask them to bring along a spouse or significant other. That way they too arent going to not know anyone else there. Make it very informal, set up buckets of beer, a pitcher or 2 of premixed drinks, easy appetizers and some music in the background. Set out maybe a deck or 2 of cards or a board game and just have fun. A game night is a good way to get to know people. But be careful, some are way more competitive then others.
2006-10-20 04:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by kimberc13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in basic terms to commonly be pleasant with them and verify out to slowly flow the variety of relationship on. So perhaps ask for an e-mail and initiate chatting to them? furnish to loiter round or invite them to social gatherings.
2016-12-05 01:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friend is someone who knows everything about you, and likes you anyway--don't remember who wrote that quote, but it's true--it works the other way around too...what are qualities you seek for friends-begin there and build upon it by spending quality time when available to both-friendship grows by sharing and caring....
2006-10-20 04:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋