why men are never satisfied?

Question

my guy and I were talking on the phone last night..(since we work in the same building he sees me often)..so he tells me that he love the way my jeans looked on me..any way he proceed to ask me why dont you wear pumps..I told him that I used to..but now I just want to be comfotable going to work and plus I do alot of running in the morning..I have to take my daughter to school on the bus everyday get off then get back on then get off then walk to the train station.how can I possible do all that with 5 inc heel on...I know how to dress for the work place and I know how to dress for hanging out and so on..I know how to carry myself both professionally and in the streets.
so why are some men never satisfy with the way their girlfriend look?

Answer 1

because once they get something then they always want the next thing.

Answer 2

Because over millions of years in the past, the men who were never satisfied with one woman, left more offspring than the men who were satisfied with one woman. Eventually, each generation producing more men of the former kind, and fewer men of the latter kind, the men who were satisfied with one woman became extinct, leaving only those who are never satisfied with one woman. But put the question the other way around: why should a man be satisfied with one woman? There's no reason. The only reason women think so, is because of their selfish desire to have the man provide for her offspring, whether they are his or not. But obviously women think that way - women can't have more than one child at a time. Once she's pregnant, she can't have any more children until after that child is weaned. A man can, and there's no reason why his reproductive strategy should be modelled on the woman's.

Answer 3

I'm going to assume that you've been around the block a few times since you mentioned that you have a daughter and work.

It's not just guys that aren't satisfied, but gals too. In our society, most people find the first person that gives them attention and latches on. Well after some time we come to realize that maybe that person we are with just isn't the right fit, but stay in the relationship anyway. Slowly we start to lower our standards and accept the things we thought we would. Finally we end up very unappy and either break up or cheat and then break up.

My point is that we get stuck with one person and stop growing. Maybe your boyfriend is starting to realize that your not the right person for him. Maybe is doesn't think that now, but it started to nit pick you. It don't think it's about the shoes. It think there is more going on and you should have a serious talk with him about what he wants in life and what his expectations are.

You need to know what you want and what makes you happy and what your able to give to another. If he is honest then he will tell you what he wants and expects. Then you need to ask yourself honestly if you are able to give him what he wants and needs with out changing who you are.

Your not married so don't feel like you need to make big sacrafices for him. He's just your boyfriend. There are SOO many men in this world. The more guys you date, then the more you will learn about yourself and what you can give and receive. Also, you will start to narrow down what type of man works best for you, so you wont have to change who you are to please him.

I have a kid too, so I know how hard it its to find time to date and meet new people. Just don't settle with someone because it's convenient.

You should politely and lovingly tell your boyfriend that the shoes stay and ask him what is really bothering him.

I hope everything works out for you and your daughter too.

Answer 4

A lot of women don't want to admit to it, but sometimes we do get laxed after we've been in long term relationships. We stop doing the things we did when we were "out looking for love". When women break up w/ their guy, what's the first thing they wanna do? Go get their hair, nails, etc. done and hit the streets. Why? Because all women knows what it takes to get a man, but after we get him, sometimes we ignore what it takes to keep him. I don't think your guy should be considered "never satisfied" or any other man for that matter. I've been married for 8 years and w/ my husband a total of 14 years and he still sees me as attractive as he did the day we met. We have 2 children and I do a lot of running as well but I look damn good doing it. I dress for me which is why my dress routine hasn't changed and my husband is still satisfied. Girl, be the diva always and shine above the rest because men are human and they look at what looks good. What if every time you saw your guy he was in sweats and high tops? Keep in mind that all first impressions are physical and keeping the first physical impression for me has worked wonders because my husband is always satisfied and he lets me know that quite often.

Answer 5

Ever think maybe you overreacted? I read both parts 1 and 2, unless I missed something, you seem to be on some rant that has very little to do with the original topic. I think there are other issues here, and the shoes are just a pretext.

Maybe he just likes it when you wear high heels?

Answer 6

Just like most of us women...asking questions that we really don't want the real answer to. No need in trying to figure men out because most men just go with the flow with us instead of walking on fire to figure us out.

Sweetie don't be so dramatic...it is not attractive and that's all the guy was trying to say. That he thinks that you are attractive and why do half of the look...try to whole shabang sometimes. Who knows it may make you feel a little better about yourself...could be useful.

Answer 7

As long as you are happy then everything is fine. You cannot live your life to please a person, and that includes your boyfriend. People in general are never satisfied. Advertisements all around tell us how imperfect we are and why we need to use a certain product or service to be better and look better. I say forget him. You need to walk around like you know you look good regardless of what you have on. That will attract men to you. Let him know that if he does not like it then another man will. You can take that to the bank.

Answer 8

Do you mean to ask why is your bf never satisfied with the way you look. I personally think my wife looks good. He may just like women who dress a certain way. Maybe he is a little shallow.

Answer 9

Because most men never learn to think since their mothers do all their thinking for them. Maybe he will mature and realize that whatever you wear had better be just fine with him as your happiness is more important than anything he does.

Answer 10

That's like asking why are women such cold fish once they have a man? Women today don't care how they look and don't think being attractive is important. That is baffling. Your man is a typical guy. He is attracted to you and would like to see you be cognizant of your own beauty.

Answer 11

He's satisfied, he's just wanting you to know that he likes your high heels too. Wear them out with jeans when ya'll go out together!!!!! Then he'll be satisfied even more.